u/Dazzling-Day-503

hi!! throwaway bc i never post on here lol. i’ve had an insane amount of stones in the past few months, starting around march of this year. finally one grew big enough (about 6mm) for my urologist to schedule me for a lithotripsy. i saw the urologist on 7/27, and my lithotripsy is scheduled for 8/20. he gave me a 15 pill prescription of 5mg oxycodone for this time period. i’ve ran out of meds over the past week, and nothing else (aleve, tylenol, pyridium, toradol, etc) is touching the pain. i called the urologist office last thursday asking if i could get a refill on the oxy and have yet to receive a call back. did anyone who had a lithotripsy get another prescription for pain meds after the procedure? i’d hate to call again bc i’ve already been called drug seeking by my primary care physician back when all of this started, and i really don’t want to deal with that again. let me know, i appreciate it !!

Throwaway for privacy reasons, also a long time lurker but first time posting so bear with me lol

Little backstory: I (early 20s f) had a childhood friend (also early 20s f) who recently started dating a guy around the same age. Before she started dating him, she had a lot going for her; good job, was in college pursuing a nice degree with good grades, very independent, etc. She also never abused substances, only drank socially / with friends and never touched weed. After she met this dude, who is a drug dealer by the way, all of that went to shit. She quit her job and dropped out of school to go live with him in his apartment, and does jack shit all day. He also keeps her placated by constantly feeding her liquor, weed, and other drugs like sleeping pills and lean. All of this is alarming on its own, but me / rest of my friends haven’t said anything bc that’s her choice and she’s an adult, she can do what she wants.

However, it gets worse in my opinion. Friend is black, and her boyfriend and mostly all of his friends/clients that he sells drugs to that are constantly coming in and out of their house are white. I could just be overreacting, but with all of the cases lately of people of color being found in shady circumstances when they’re surrounded by white people just makes me a little sick to my stomach. I just think a young, pretty black woman being constantly surrounded by doped up white dudes while inebriated herself sounds like something bad waiting to happen. I tried to tell her all of this, but was completely unsuccessful.

The WIBTA part comes in because I’ve been thinking about letting her mom know where’s she’s at lately. Her mother has no idea where she lives, only knows that she moved out a few months ago and thinks she’s living with a friend. I would text her off a burner number obviously, and just say something along the lines of “hey your daughter lives with a junkie drug dealer and is constantly surrounded by all of his junkie friends, just wanting you to be aware in case anything happens to her”. As a parent I feel like I would want to know if my daughter is in a potentially dangerous situation, especially if she’s a minority and all of these cases like Nolan Wells have been happening recently. At the same time, I also kind of don’t want to get involved since she is grown and can make her own decisions. She’s also completely aware of the lifestyle he lives and finds it attractive in a weird Lana Del Rey type of way.

Idk let me know!! I have a really guilty conscience about this and know I would absolutely hate myself for not speaking up in the event that something happens, but I also could just be overreacting. Love you guys mwah mwah