Why would a guy apologize months later, say he has “accountability,” but still not make a move afterward?
Guy thoughts please 😭
Had this complicated thing with a former workmate. We hung out for about a month almost a year ago, but it didn’t progress because of work dynamics. After I resigned, we started talking again, and I jokingly offered an ONS. He rejected it even though there was no commitment or anything expected in return. I got hurt and said things like “you’re unfair” and “I hate you” because he seemed really, really game with s*x*** banter over chat.
We stopped talking for around 3 months. I was the one who initiated contact again recently just to congratulate him for passing an exam, but he ended up extending the conversation several times (career talk, teasing, personal stuff, etc.). Then out of nowhere he said sorry, told me “don’t be mad or resentful anymore,” and said he has “accountability.” Which surprised me because I wasn’t even opening that topic anymore.
But after the conversation, there was no follow-up from him again 😭 We also randomly saw each other at a mall before this and both pretended not to see each other.
PS: He’s generally very game with s*x*** jokes/banter, but in real life he seems to cave once things become too real. He also mentioned before that he’s never had a girlfriend (which I think is true), and once described himself as a c***rd. At one point he even told me, “you’ll eventually find someone who can match you.” So now I genuinely can’t tell if this is emotional avoidance/fear or if he simply enjoys the connection but doesn’t actually want to pursue anything serious.
Men of Reddit, what do you think was going on there? Why would someone act like this?
TL;DR Why does this guy act emotionally attached and guilty, but still remain passive and unclear?”