u/Dazzling-Umpire9544

I came on here a few weeks ago during crisis and want to thank people who responded with kind words and sentiments, it really helped me.

Since that day my dad has had a stent fitted for his bile duct blockage and is less yellow and finally eating thankfully but still in a lot of pain. He has biopsy’s taken which we are waiting on the results from. Initial tests show that the cancer is stage 2 and hasn’t metastasised thankfully but the tumour is sitting at the head of the pancreas and near a major artery. It isn’t attached which is something. Doctors have told us that surgery would be “tricky” but I’m hoping that doesn’t mean impossible. We are yet to see an oncologist to discuss chemo options.

Does anyone have experience with this stage of cancer? We are in the uk so have the benefits of free NHS care but not the options for doctors US citizens seem to have

Thank you for you help

My husband left me out of the blue about 6/7 weeks ago saying he wasn’t happy any more. Since then we have been in daily contact, mainly about our 2 kids but also discussing the relationship. He doesn’t want to work on it or see any possibility of reconciling at the moment but also is still living in our family home whilst I have moved out to my parents. During this time my dad has also been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I feel like my whole world is crashing down and I don’t know what to do. It hurts me when he doesn’t check in to see how my dad is doing and I feel like I am the one initiating. I know I should go lower contact but it hurts so badly and I just need some form of stability in my life. If he is so done why doesn’t he want a divorce? We have also agreed not to see anyone else. I just have no clue what I am doing or what to do for the best. I don’t want to be with someone who finds it so easy to walk out on his wife and kids but also really miss the man I married. Any advice from people who have been in a similar situation?

I found out today that my 72 year old dad has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer just 4 months after getting the all clear from prostate cancer. New cancer, shit luck. He went into hospital with stomach pain and jaundice last week and they have confirmed pancreatic cancer. He has 18mm tumour in the pancreas which is blocking his bile duct and a possible 19mm metastatic lesion on his right adrenal gland. We are back at the hospital on Monday for more answers.

Added to this my husband walked out leaving me to be a single mum to 2 kids under 3 last month and we have been staying with him in the meantime to try and get sorted. Just feel like life is kicking us when we are already down.

Is there any hope or positivity that anyone can share?