u/Dazzling_Annual8238

So i found even more evidence of my husband cheating, for context he doesn’t speak english, so on our tablet he was logged into his google account, and sometimes when he’s not around i check his google translate history and that’s where i found he was cheating on me! he was using google translate to write messages to other guys!!! also on our tablet i used it to check his history which he didnt know about btw and found sniffies multiple times, when asked about the sniffies he denied ever using it and claimed it was an old account that he didnt delete and was somehow popping back up, alright whatever i gave him the benefit of the doubt. As of yesterday i found more messages on his google translate and it was him flirting and etc asking for pics, so i called him out i said, were you lying to me when you said you don’t use sniffies? and he started going off saying things like “if you don’t trust me don’t be with me” he also said “i feel like it’s you that does cheat since you’re so paranoid about it” and he also said that he feels like i have access to his accounts, which seemed like a red flag to me because wouldn’t that mean there IS cheating happening on there..? he also permanently removed his location from me so now i can’t see where he goes, and he told me i deserve to worry since i keep accusing him. i’m stressed

edit; his google is no longer on our tablet, so i can no longer check if he’s cheating

Just discovered old history on my husbands google account of him flirting with men, talking about “i have a husband but i’m discreet” and saying things to them like “i’m married but i want to experience new things.” like why? my first ex cheated on me and now him… are any gay guys truly loyal to one person? i’ve never cheated on him and i don’t want to but everytime i read those things my heart hurts more. Him wanting to experience more is perfectly fine, but why hide it? i asked him in the past many many times before we got married if we would be fine together and he wouldn’t need to have an open relationship and he told me no of course not, yet here we are..

My (21M) Husband (25M) is hiv+, and taking treatment and currently has an undetectable load so we have unprotected sex. However as of last month my lymph nodes have been swollen, and i feel tired and have fevers.

I spoke to my husband about what would he do if i got HIV. I was told that “There’s no way you can have it unless you cheat on me with soneone else.” And so i’m scared to go get tested even though i think i caught it from him… I don’t want to know because i don’t want him to think i cheated.. i wouldn’t do that and haven’t.

But i’m also confused, Is there a way i could’ve gotten HIV even though he’s been on treatment our entire relationship? He has been without pills a few times but thats usually just for a month and he gets them back, and we avoid sex during those periods.