AITA for getting upset at my boyfriend making plans with his friends
Hello I (F/19) and my boyfriend (M/19) have been together for almost 2 years.
For months hes been working in a blue collar job that takes a lot of his time throughout the week for himself and other things. So as to spend time together and give each other our own time, we agreed on having the weekends for our together time.
For the past weekends I sleepover at his house and we hangout the next day. The weekends is also when his friends are free so he sometimes plays video games or soccer with them. Him playing video games with his friends doesnt bother me because its at night and I get time to do my own thing.
The issue is that since Monday or Tuesday we planned the weekend out: Friday he comes over, I sleepover going into Saturday and leave Saturday night. We both agreed.
Yesterday I had asked if he wanted to accompany with grocery shopping for my meal prepping, he said he wasnt sure because of his eye appointment at 5:30 and possible soccer plans afterwards. Which I understood and said to let me know.
He ends up saying I can come along with him because his eye place is in a walmart, so we could do shopping afterwards since he said he most likely won't be able to go play.
Spoiler alert, the appointment took much longer so we spent the afternoon getting out groceries till 8.
We agree to just pass by ny house so I can get my stuff and then go to his house. He then goes on his game to play with his friends while I watch a movie.
This morning comes and we both kind of just go on our phones in the morning before finally one of us gets up and tells the other to get up and not waste the day. But this time his friends call and they were on speaker; they were talking about go to play soccer which my boyfriend started agreeing with them on.
I get shocked and annoyed and look at him, patting him to mute and say "i thought that today was a we day like we agreed earlier this week." He then states he didnt know we were hanging out today, and that he was trying to go since he didnt yesterday.
I start getting upset because its not fair to take time out of our day to play soccer with his friends just because he couldnt yesterday. Mind you I had no obvious problem with him playing yesterday, he didnt go cause it was getting late. So it just wasnt fair to me that he would take time out of our day when it wasnt my fault he couldnt yesterday.
He starts getting confused and is just like "okay then what are we doing today?? We barely do anything anyways, we never know where to go, and you dont like to be out too long" and i said "but we can figure something out, I dont have to always be the one planning stuff, you can as well."
At this point im crying because hes pushing away my feelings saying that im making it a big deal, and thats its not bad its only gonna take 2 hours. I started saying how hes not understanding the point im making, and how I feel like a 2nd choice always because he can remember plans with them but not with me.
We just sit in silence and in the whole time he never once utters an apology. He only goes "hey are you upset??" And I say I am, and he says he doesn't understand why I am. And im telling him how I cant believe couldnt even apologize, or talk with me knowing that hurt my feelings and he was wrong.
He plays this whole attitude he does when doesnt genuinely care and finds it dumb. Only saying sorry and "can we talk?" After I said something, at this point I say dont want to and contact my mom to pick me up. And he just keeps acting like im making a big deal and that I dont want to talk or hang out, when I said the problem isn't I dont, but that hes not recognizing his wrong and apologizing, instead hes pushing my feelings away.
As of right now im at home hurt and hes out playing soccer. Am I overreacting?? Am I the asshole in this situation?? Please tell me