Is it weird that I actually hope my LC homophobic parents can find it in them to go to my wedding?
Hey there, just a bit of a rambling rant I guess, i know a lot of posts here are about the opposite. Not wanting their homophobic parents to show up to their wedding, or posting about how they keep beging to go, and those things are valid af... but its eating away at me... I always had this fear, that they would not care i was getting married to a same sex partner... like, I have the smallest glimer of hope for them to accept me and my partner and allow us to be a family again, going to holidays, being able to talk to them about my life and what not.
My mom was never overtly homophobic before I came out, and after I came out she at least sounded like she was open to accepting me, but very far from supportive and made it clear she did not care to hear about anyone I was dating.
My father on the otherhand went ballistic... there was absolutely no way I could have dated someone seriously while I lived at their house. He resented the idea so much that he coped with saying I only told him about my same sex attraction to hurt him. Yet... my father has changed a lot over the years, both good and bad. At some point he realized that mental health was actually a real thing and not bullshit, becoming very supportive towards my mental health where previously he berated me for having poor mental health, while also becoming hardcore maga... My sister, who's very close with him, also said a while ago he would probably come around and maybe already had. So I reached out a few months ago and brought it up. his response was to thank me for not being gay around him while I lived at the house and into the future...
Some time later, me and my father got into a massive unrelated argument over text and I pretty much went NC, though still hold out hope he'll come around...
Some time after that, I messaged my LC mother and just asked her, "if me and my current partner were to get married, would you want to go to the wedding? Would you want to know about it to begin with?" Her response was to say no without saying no...
I'm not sure why it's so important to me... I think its because I know that it's a choice they can make that would, in my mind, cement them firmly in the "your partner, and their for you, are not welcome in our family" camp.
Suppose it could be an easy way for me to stop hoping and just forget about them if it comes to it though...