Ang hirap ng dating pool for 40’s
I am 41 single momma and been single for a long time and medyo wala na ko practice pano makipag convo sa opposite sex for date and ewan ko kung may miscommunication kami nitong guy or sadyang red flag lang talaga cia. recently, i started talking to this 45yr old guy and mukhang namang single. we had plans meeting this weekend but puro red flags agad ampota. since taga Cavite cia, I told him and kung pwede nia ko samahan sa house ng friend ko na di ko nakita for 15yrs. sabi ko quick kamustahan lang and he agrees. he was nice to offer na dalhan nmin ng food yung friend ko. I said yes. but medyo naasiwa ako ako na when he said dala na din cia ng alcohols ( i dont drink) sabi ko tignan ko kc quick kamustahan lang nmn. yung friend ko sabi nia kung pwede sa isang comedy bar ko cia daaanan. guy said yes and said something off: sama mo friend mo sa bahay ko and mag inuman tayo dun basta wag nio ko rape-in ahh then tell her to add me on fb (🚩). I was like wtf 😱 sabi ko quick kamustahan lang nmn pero bkt napunta na to sa inuman & bahay mo and di mo pa cia na meet then nagpapa add ka na sa fb. sabi ko nag dadalawang isip na nga ko kitain c friend because it’s our date and i prefer sa tahimik na place like coffee or dinner. then he laughed & sabi nia san mo gusto? eh di sana dun tayo sa cemetery or library (🚩). sabi ko Im an introvert and ayaw ko sa crowded places and saka ang awkward naman kung first time meeting natin eh may third wheel tas inuman na agad. then bigla nia kong invalidate: My God and tanda mo na to use the words Introvert and awkward. pang gen z lang yun then sabay tawa (🚩) i ended the call right away and cancelled the date on weekends. i told myself manahimik na nga muna ako at umiwas sa dating scene. di bale na tumandang mag isa wag lang mapunta sa stressful na tao.
speaking of cemetery and library: I love cemeteries and libraries. i follow cemetery pages on soc med and i love reading books and tambay ako ng library when i was younger.