Welcome sa weekly Kumustahan 4 Kwarentahin Thread natin.

Dito, pwede kayong mag-share ng kahit anong nangyayari sa life ninyo: good news, bad news, rants, small wins, wins na medyo not-so-small, o kahit random chika lang o kaya mga bagong ganap.

No pressure, no judgment. Basta kumusta ka lang talaga.

No wonder I experienced severe burnout in my early 20s after being promoted as a Team Leader. I was set up to fail - incompetent due to lack of training.

Now my question to you, my dear Kwarentahins, Do you think this still applies to Managers or VP?

Pero seryoso to, the first time I posted like this, maraming nagmessage but gradually disappearing. 😊

I am financially, mentally and physically stable, I can say.

Maybe Im weird and wholesome kaya nawawala sila? Hindi naman ako panget. Lol, baka panget ugali. Hay yoko na. Haha

Di ako alam yung tamang flair, sorry na 😂 naintriga ako kasi balita ko cutie yung Cutie ni Addie 😂 kaya naisip ko itanong kung paano niyo ba iri-rate yung sarili niyo looks-wise.

May seryosong tanong ako, pero wag niyo akong ibash. ✌️

Bilang nakakakilig yung recently nagshare ng lovestory dito.

May naccrushan ba kayo dito sa sub?

Naexperience niyo ba yung may nabasa kayong post or comment from someone tapos nasip niyo, parang okay ito.

Then you find yourself lurking in the same thread with that user and anticipating posts/comments from that user tapos excited kayong sumagot at mag-engage.

I know it’s weird since hindi magkakakilala, hindi nagkakakitaan, and what we see here may not be true at all in real life. But I think it’s possible. What do you think?

Note:

Idedelete ko rin ito pag walang gustong sumagot. 😂

Edit:

Hindi daw possible ang magkacrush dito. How about “Have you grown fond of someone despite anonymity”?

Also, hindi ko sinasabing may crush ako. Nagtatanong lang po.

May nagdodownvote. Wag daw tayo masyado maharot 🤣* *

Anong bagay ang gusto mong ibalik kahit one day lang?

Yung panahon na ang biggest problem mo lang ay kung sino katabi mo sa classroom o kung may load ka pang unli text hanggang 12mn? - isang tao lang naman kausap mo? 🥴

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late 30's but still single? Kamusta kayo?

Nakakatakot ba?

What kind of food always hits the spot for you nowadays?

I don’t know how to start. Iniisip ko pa lang kung pano ko ikukwento napapagod na agad ako
For context, I am a single female in her mid forties and single. We are siblings of 3 and both parents passed away. Mom passed away because of cancer and dad passed away a year after due to heart attack. Prior to my dad having a heart attack, my special needs sister (34 yo) at the time ay lumalala na yung Chronic Kidney Disease (CKD) nya, from CKD3 she jumped to CKD5 because I got tired of what happened to my mom. My mom suffered for 4 months, we discovered her cancer too late to do anything. my brother and I took care of my mom until her last day. I was grieving and wanted to find a way to relieve losing the person who I truly loved and the only person who I felt truly loved me. So I neglected having my sister’s lab tests to see if her CKD was progressing. A month before my dad passed, pina-lab test ko na uli yung sister ko to find out na she needs to start dialysis. My dad got immensely worried.Nung pina-confine ko na yung sister ko and when she was discharged, my dad wanted to visit my sister at home. On the day I was supposed to pick up my father to visit my sister at my house, my brother found him in his bed na wala ng buhay. Least to say it was tumultuous for me to attend to my sister at asikasuhin yung wake at burial ng tatay ko. The 1st few months of my sister’s dialysis was very challenging. Since she is special (she has a mental age of 10 yrs old) and having low tolerance for pain, every injection, every hospital trip had been stressful and has really affected my job to the point na na-lay off ako. My brother (the eldest) is the type who will be the muscle, sabihin mo sa kanya kung ano ang gagawin, he will execute but life changing decisions, I have to be the one to decide. Kausapin ang mga doktor, tanungin kung ano dapat ang gagawin, ano ang pros and cons, ask what should be my next step, kailangan ako kase he is unable to decide and does not know what to do. Fast forward to 3 yrs after my dad’s death, dialysis patient pa din ang sister ko and medyo naging stable kahit papaano. Today, may nakitang complication sa kanya na could potentially result into very weak bones so may likelihood na may need tanggalin sa thyroid gland nya. All my trauma from the time na magkasakit yung mom ko, nung 1st few months of dialysis ng sister are all coming back now. The fear of losing my job because I have to prioritise caring for family is coming back. As someone who is in mid 40s, and as selfish as I may sound, kapag may medical emergency, naiisip ko.. paano kaya kung ako yung magkasakit eventually especially during my senior years, may matitira pa kaya sa savings ko.. kelan kaya ako ga-graduate sa pagiging ‘padre de pamilya’ para maenjoy ko yung pinaghihirapan ko sa work ko ngayon. I feel so alone. Kahit may 2 ako kapatid, parang ako na lang parati yung sandalan and I am really tired and exhausted every time medical emergencies come up.

I grew up in Batangas but my parents are both filipino chinese. I'm always interested to meet others that grew up like me and look like me. All girls school ako so i'm i guess still shy went talking to guys hahhaa. Any help would be greatly appreciated 😄

5'1 ako normal bmi, maputi. face card- 9/10. mabait. nurse. 😄

Curious lang, sa mga Titos:

- kelan niyo nalaman/malalaman na it’s the right time to pop the question?

- sa mga hindi pa nakakapagpropose, ano ang hinihintay niyo?

Sa mga Titas

- why did you say yes/no?

- if you have not been proposed to, sa tingin niyo, bakit kaya?

Do you agree that kapag nasa late thirties and forties na tayo ay pagkain ang nagbibigay saya sa atin? Like when we have salary kakain sa labas, bibili ng grocery or mamalengke to cook special food for our family or treat our friends. Tapos when we travel ang unang iniisip natin is bumili ng pasalubong and makatikim ng pagkain na bago sa atin. Then we buy and eat the food we want na noon parang pangarap lang just to heal our inner child.

I don’t even know if this counts as a breakup because technically, we were never really together.

For almost 4 years, this man was my best friend. We talked almost every day, shared everything, stayed through difficult moments, and became emotionally attached in a way that honestly blurred every line possible. We called each other “bffs,” but deep down I think both of us knew it stopped being just friendship a long time ago.

The problem was… it never fully became anything either.

There were feelings, affection, emotional intimacy, jealousy, mixed signals, late-night conversations, and moments that felt too deep to just be platonic. We became physically intimate too, which only made the attachment stronger and the boundaries even more confusing. It felt like we were emotionally and physically committed to each other without ever truly defining what we were.

And somehow, that kind of connection can hurt more because you keep holding onto the possibility that maybe one day it’ll finally become real.

But there was also inconsistency, uncertainty, and this constant feeling that we were stuck in between friendship and something more.

Recently, we finally had closure. He admitted things honestly, and for the first time I realized that continuing this connection was hurting me more than helping me.

The painful part is that he wanted to stay in my life. He wanted us to remain close. But I realized I couldn’t do it anymore because I loved him too much to peacefully watch him eventually love or choose someone else.

I couldn’t keep pretending I was okay with “just friendship” when my feelings clearly went beyond that. I think staying would’ve slowly destroyed me emotionally.

So I left.

And now I feel like I lost both a potential lover and my best friend at the same time.

That’s the part nobody talks about enough. Sometimes the grief isn’t just romantic heartbreak, it’s mourning the person who used to feel like home to you.

Part of me wishes we never crossed the line emotionally and physically because maybe we could’ve preserved the friendship. But another part of me knows that after years of unresolved feelings, intimacy, and emotional dependency, there was no real way to go back to being “just friends.”

I know leaving was the right decision for my peace, but it still hurts so much.

Has anyone else gone through this? Losing your best friend because the relationship became too emotionally complicated to survive?

can you share industry and challenges encountered please

Is there a little treat/gesture that always cheers you up?

Sa edad na to Im sure marami na tayong "what if". Curious ako sa mga what if ninyo. Ako na mauna. What if hindi ako torpe, may pag asa kayo ako sa crush ko nun(alam nya and I would randomly catch her looking at me with despise 🤣).