u/HorseyScorpio1990

Pa-rant lang mga momsh.

Ang hirap maging working mom na malayo ka sa mga anak mo. I work sa Manila, sila nasa probinsya. Sobrang naiiyak ako everytime nag uusap kami via video call. Hindi ko kasi kayang umuwi every week dahil sa pagod at mahal ng pamasahe.

Malapit na ata ako ma-depress. Lol everytime nakakakita ako ng mga bata na kasama magulang nila, napalatulala na lang ako at naluluha.

Bakit kasi kailangan maging working mom. Mahirap din maging stay-at-home mom (na-try ko din). Pero mas gusto ko yung hirap ng pag-aasikaso sa bahay, sa mga bata, kesa sa hirap na malayo sa kanila.

Kaso need mag work eh. Hindi na biro ang cost of living ngayon.

Sa mga OFW moms, how do you cope? Ang hirap. Sobra.

Na-realize ko what keeps me sane is lifting weights, running, and physically tiring my body out. Para at the end of the day, sobrang pagod ko na, my body would be too numb to feel. Tulog agad. Bagsak. No tears.

Hi! Any two-piece swimwear brand recos?

I have a CS scar na keloid pa so preferably high waist yung bottom.

I'm flat chested so yung snug and fits very well para kahit anong galaw hindi mahuhulog. Lol I'm size EU 36

First time ko mag two-piece kaya hirap mamili at maghanap hehe

Nag try ako maghanap sa shopee, IG, etc but I'm too overwhelmed sa dami. Hehe baka lang may ma-recommend kayo na ok na brand

Posting here kasi I find this sub to be insightful. Baka may advice po kayo for someone who's in her mid 30s. Hehe

As a breadwinner myself, sobrang hirap ako maging vulnerable or let my guards down sa harap ng loved ones.

Financial provider ako ng immediate family ko and partly my parents. Kapag may problema ako, I don't turn to them. Instead, I keep it to myself and try my best to hold it together and solve the issue.

Even if I'm feeling sad or not my best self, I can't be transparent to them and just be me. Ang hirap.

Feeling ko as a panganay, kailangan ko din ng someone whom I can be vulnerable at the end of day. Kahit ate, or kuya.

I noticed din na I do not cry in front of other people. Sometimes I noticed na I keep a straight face whenever faced with problems. Parang ayokong nakikita ng ibang tao na weak ako. Hehe

Ganito din ba kayo? How do you handle this? Minsan kasi sakit na sa dibdib eh (literally)

EDIT: Thanks sa comments. Binasa ko po lahat. Basically, I need an outlet to channel whatever I'm feeling right now. There goes my next task - to find an outlet (hindi saksakan ah. Char, ok stop na lol)

Thank you all 💞🥹

As a breadwinner myself, sobrang hirap ako maging vulnerable or let my guards down sa harap ng loved ones.

Financial provider ako ng immediate family ko and partly my parents. Kapag may problema ako, I don't turn to them. Instead, I keep it to myself and try my best to hold it together and solve the issue.

Even if I'm feeling sad or not my best self, I can't be transparent to them and just be me. Ang hirap.

Feeling ko as a panganay, kailangan ko din ng someone whom I can be vulnerable at the end of day. Kahit ate, or kuya.

I noticed din na I do not cry in front of other people. Sometimes I noticed na I keep a straight face whenever faced with problems. Parang ayokong nakikita ng ibang tao na weak ako. Hehe

Ganito din ba kayo? How do you handle this? Minsan kasi sakit na sa dibdib eh (literally)

We've been together for 10 years. He knows that I only eat the breast part sa chicken, I tell him that. And every time may kainan, I pick the breast part and he would always comment na "walang lasa" or "dry yan eh".

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So today, I asked him to buy raw chicken since fried chicken ang uulamin. Nung luto na, I asked him if thigh and leg part lang ba binili niya and he said yes. Nag comment ako na, "alam mo naman chicken breast favorite ko". Sabi niya next time daw.

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Medyo na-hurt ako. Kasi, alam niyang paborito ko yun pero kailangan sabihin pa. Hehe and I noticed din sa mga maliliit na bagay, he doesn't pay attention to my wants and the kids' preferences. Kung ano masarap na food for him, expectation is masarap din sa lahat.

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But here I am, pag grocery, bumibili ng Picnic atbp paborito niyang snacks. Alam ko na ayaw niya ng cake and prefers ice cream more.

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The little things count a lot. Idk, but the chicken breast ulam hit hard today. Call me OA or whatever, pero kasi...Ahehe

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Ayun lang. Sana masarap ulam niyong lahat 💞🫰🏼

Planning to buy the current house and lot which we are renting in right now. The owner agreed to sell it to us, pero kami daw mag aayos ng transfer of title. We reside in the province and I have a couple of questions:

1. What paperwork do we need to do? Do we need to hire a broker for that?

2. Planning to course it through bank financing.

- Which banks have the best fixed interest rate and tenor for now? Just inquired with BPI and they are offering 7.95% fixed for 10yrs.

- If bank financing, how does that go? Will the bank pay the seller the property's selling price?

These are my thoughts, but would love to have your insights.

For those who are married and those who have partners, when you make love, do you still kiss passionately?

I've asked my friends and I got mixed answers. Haha most say they just do the deed and skip the kissing part.

So I wanted to ask here.

EDIT: Thanks for the insights! Akala ko kasi pag kwarentahin na hindi na uso makipaghalikan haha

Turns out, hindi pala normal yun lol thank you for enlightening me lol