u/Debizoerah

9th graders still have the middle school attitude in them, you can just tell they are freshmen
That’s the post.

To give a little context to my rant, I am African and the amount of times I have heard students say something smug and racist about Africa is alarming and they laugh about it as well, it’s really baffling. I literally had a student walk up to me and say something ridiculous along the lines of “you drink water all the time because there’s no water in Africa” GFB a girl wants to stay hydrated 🙂‍↔️. And No I don’t discuss where I am from with my students they can tell from my name and accent. I don’t know if it’s the parents or the system that needs to do better… and oh I hear “go back home” every time.

So as the title stated, my fiance and I are struggling with life priorities, let me explain better, my fiance and I started dating 3 years ago and we got engaged earlier this year, for context we I’m turning 21 this year so no the age difference isn’t weird. My fiance works as a corrections officer and I have a bachelor’s and I’m getting my masters in ABA and also working towards my teaching license ( I love school and thanks to my mum for making me skip some classes) but right now I work as a substitute teacher, my income isn’t the best but I’m working towards more income, but on the other hand my fiance makes more than enough to sustain us, all this while also building a car rental business and a construction business, all this to say we are financially stable. We are planning to get married and buy a house next year.

So here is where it gets tricky, I really love my fiance, we have come up with a five year plan and we plan to have kids after that, but lately I’ve been having the urge to get pregnant, I mean so bad that I had to tell my fiance about it, he doesn’t have any problem with this but we are kind of worried that having a kid would be a hold back our 5 year plan and it would turn our plan to a 7-8 year plan. We need advice from those who have been in the situation before and what you would advice we prioritize? Sticking to the 5 year plan or going ahead to have a baby?

Ps: The main reason why we wanted the kid to come after 5 years is because my fiance was worried that my body is too delicate to carry a baby, but when I’m 25/26 it might be easier for me then.