Mobbing and handling it
Long story short the company I work for its a small team and earlier this year I had a falling out with one coworker, they get everyone in the office involved, people ignore me, and I keep to myself. After 2 months, said coworker talks to me and we make up and shake hands, no beef between us. The ignoring from the rest continues. At first I thought maybe it's me for not engaging or keeping myself, so I make the effort to engage with them, saying hi, chatting a bit, or going to lunch. Tbh going to lunch makes me super uncomfortable because if I show up and I'm sitting with someone else, one of them will sit down and just address that person, making me feel like I'm not existent. Which I think is horrible :( and there has been multiple times this has happen so I gave up on going to lunch. Or I choose to go when I see certain people aren't working that day or aren't at lunch. Obviously there a few nice ones, both know the story of what happened and both heard me out from my end and they're still friendly with me, which shows me how much of a person these two are compared to everyone else. The main person who organizes outings would obviously leave me out and would justify it by saying oh since that one coworker felt uncomfortable or it bothered them, they were doing it because of them. Several times I would say yes I understand...I'm an adult, I take responsibility and do my job of respecting people. As months go by, I'm still not invited to anything, not even to lunches held for others, so in a professional setting, people are treating me like shit. That's okay I guess? Twice I've brought it to the main person that me and said coworker have made up and we're friendly with each other. They heard me out but didn't care, so I'm still not invited to anything. I started going to therapy to talk about these things and make myself feel better because it's been rough. Let's just say that I no longer give importance to this whole situation, because the main person I had the issue with I know that we forgiven each other and moved on, for the rest of the losers who still act like its high school I let them and I don't care about them. I'll talk to the ones who are nice and I engage with them in convos, but for those few who are immature I can care less. We're still mutuals on insta and they view allllllll my stories but never engage, I muted them so to me their lives aren't important to me lol. Idk this whole situation really shows you how people are and how mean and horrible they can be. To me it really just proved how people still act like their in higschools, oh the popular person is choosing not talk to me or invite me out? let's all follow their lead because we're stupid sheep