u/Decent_Sock2929

Okay, I've defended Aedion to SO many people while reading this series. I had a ton of sympathy for him when the blood oath to Aelin was taken by Rowan instead. Like yes, Aedion was a jerk, but he had been dreaming of taking that oath since he was a little boy and it's the only thing that kept him going through all the dark times while he was fighting all those years. So I totally understood why he would be so upset that she kept from him the fact that Rowan had taken it. I understand her POV too of course, but he had my sympathy. And it didn't really bother me when he had his outbursts and things like that, because it's not like Aelin and all the rest didn't have tempers too, and emotions were certainly running high in certain parts of the books. He wasn't my favorite character or anything, but I loved him and Lysandra in EOS, and was really cheering for his growth arc.

I just started KOA and he's making me want to just put the book down and not finish. Him refusing to talk to the woman that he professed to love just because she helped Aelin is actually the last straw for me. I don't care what happens to him after this. Of course, it's perfectly okay when HE lies, cheats, and steals to help Terrasen, and when HE does harm in the name of his queen, but someone else does it and he's mad? Someone doesn't tell him something for the sake of THE SAFETY OF THE WORLD and his response is to just never talk to them again? Give me a break. He's literally the most unreasonable man in this series, and yes that includes Chaol.

Okay, so basically, I cannot for the life of me figure out whether I qualify as hypermobile or not. (not diagnosed). Here is my story for context:

I was a cheerleader for years, pretty flexible, but looking back I can see that I lacked joint stability. In my late teens I snapped a ligament doing a lift-- probably because my wrist was tilted back while bearing a heavy load, and my elbows tend to flip around and overextend so things were just not in a great position. From there, I had wrist issues for a long time, followed by lower back issues and pelvic floor issues. I've since had problems with my neck, problems with posture, piriformis overextension, ankle tendonitis, and a ton of other random muscular problems that all seem to lead back to instability. It just feels like it's always something, and it's been almost 10 years since that first wrist injury, and I've been in and out of physical therapy ever since. Currently in PT because I have instability in my lower neck, and overcompensation in the upper neck, which causes dizziness and proprioception issues.

Recently, I have been learning more about hypermobility, and seeing a lot of myself in the educational content I see online-- the frequent injuries, the instability, even when I'm being as careful as possible and trying to pace myself, the SECOND I push myself physically, I end up with tendonitis, pain, etc. I'm only in my early 20s, and I'm fairly active, so I feel like that's not normal.

I asked my physical therapist about hypermobility, and she did the normal Beighton scale tests on me, and said that I don't meet the diagnostic criteria for hEDS. She also told me that she "hesitates to say" that I'm hypermobile, but also that hypermobility "isn't really a problem" and that it's totally fine to be hypermobile. But then the PT aide saw my elbows and was like "Oh you're hypermobile." I'm just confused as to why they are telling me different things.

All of my random injuries and aches and pains don't feel normal to me, but if I don't meet the Beighton criteria, I don't see how I could ever be taken seriously by someone who treats hypermobility, so I don't know how or if I should even seek some sort of help or treatment.

I feel super lost and confused. What do I do?

Okay, so basically, I cannot for the life of me figure out whether I qualify as hypermobile or not. Here is my story for context:

I was a cheerleader for years, pretty flexible, but looking back I can see that I lacked joint stability. In my late teens I snapped a ligament doing a lift-- probably because my wrist was tilted back while bearing a heavy load, and my elbows tend to flip around and overextend so things were just not in a great position. From there, I had wrist issues for a long time, followed by lower back issues and pelvic floor issues. I've since had problems with my neck, problems with posture, piriformis overextension, ankle tendonitis, and a ton of other random muscular problems that all seem to lead back to instability. It just feels like it's always something, and it's been almost 10 years since that first wrist injury, and I've been in and out of physical therapy ever since. Currently in PT because I have instability in my lower neck, and overcompensation in the upper neck, which causes dizziness and proprioception issues.

Recently, I have been learning more about hypermobility, and seeing a lot of myself in the educational content I see online-- the frequent injuries, the instability, even when I'm being as careful as possible and trying to pace myself, the SECOND I push myself physically, I end up with tendonitis, pain, etc. I'm only in my early 20s, and I'm fairly active, so I feel like that's not normal.

I asked my physical therapist about hypermobility, and she did the normal Beighton scale tests on me, and said that I don't meet the diagnostic criteria for hEDS. She also told me that she "hesitates to say" that I'm hypermobile, but also that hypermobility "isn't really a problem" and that it's totally fine to be hypermobile. But then the PT aide saw my elbows and was like "Oh you're hypermobile." I'm just confused as to why they are telling me different things.

All of my random injuries and aches and pains don't feel normal to me, but if I don't meet the Beighton criteria, I don't see how I could ever be taken seriously by someone who treats hypermobility, so I don't know how or if I should even seek some sort of help or treatment.

I feel super lost and confused. What do I do?