AITAH for telling my sister I won't be her birthing partner after she said I'm "too ugly to be in the delivery room photos"?
My sister is 8 months pregnant and asked me months ago to be her birthing partner. I was honored. I cleared my schedule, read books on childbirth, took a class on how to support her. I was all in.
Last week, we were having lunch and she started talking about the delivery photos she wants to take right after birth — skin-to-skin, first family moments, all of it. She said she's hiring a professional photographer for the delivery room.
Then she said: "I'll need to make sure you stand behind the camera, not in any shots. You have a really unflattering face and I don't want to look back at my birth photos and see you ruining them."
I just stared at her. She said it completely casually, like she was commenting on the weather. I asked her: "Did you just call me too ugly to be in your photos?" She said "I'm just being honest. You know you're not photogenic. It's not personal."
I told her I'm no longer her birthing partner. If I'm too ugly to be in her photos, I'm too ugly to hold her hand while she pushes a baby out of her body. She laughed and said I was being "ridiculously oversensitive." She later texted me an apology that said "I'm sorry you were offended."
Our mom is now begging me to "just get over it" because she "needs support." But why is it my job to support someone who just told me my face would ruin her perfect memory? AITAH?