u/Deep-Passage-173

Do I need to tell people I'm on E?

Before getting into this, I'm genderfluid MtF and have been considering estrogen since December. There are a number of reasons I'd want to undergo HRT but thats not really the subject of conversation here, although I'm happy to discuss it.

I haven't told my parents or any of my family that I'm genderfluid. I'm not sure if it's particularly any of their business either given that gendering me to my sex assigned at birth isn't necessarily "wrong". However, given that I've not told them, I'm not sure if, should I go on estrogen, that would be the right gateway to try and explain it to them.

Would it be okay to go on estrogen and maintain a relationship with them without ever informing them about it? With development of breasts I'd be comfortable binding or anything similar if I needed to (I'd be doing that anyway on days I felt particularly masculine) and I get the feeling that if I wear to do things like swimming with an oversized t-shirt on, they might not notice.

Some advice here would be great though! Especially if the conclusion is that I SHOULD tell them I'm planning on going through HRT. I don't know how I would approach that conversation.

Thanks in advance :)

So as the title says, yesterday for the first time I went out as femme. I already had the stuff to do it - in March I had been in a pantomime playing a female character, so I already had a bra that fitted with sticky bras and those chicken cutlet inserts, and a corset that fit underneath my clothes. So I put those on, shaved, did make-up, etc, and went out with my friends to the bar/club/etc as a girl.

It was really really fun! I felt so much more comfortable in my skin (even if the extra layers were really warm) and people were treating me so friendly-like. That last bit was actually really weird for me - I'm used to people, especially women, sort of avoiding me at clubs and bars because I'm normally pretty masc and as such they don't feel really comfortable around me, which I get. But yesterday so many women would approach me because they just wanted to dance with me, and felt comfortable in my company, just purely comfortable and joyful. It's weird. I was so happy but also felt such an imposter syndrome as it felt a bit like I was lying to them in them being so comfortable - which of course wasn't true; in fact, it was probably my first time ever being truthful to the world like that. But that difference was staggering.

It was also the first time I realised quite how lonely I feel in my male body sometimes, as a result of being masc. Like oh my god, being femme is just so welcoming, and I just wish I could do that all the time without having to think about it, or have those extra uncomfortable layers on pinching at my sides and sweating on my chest - those inserts actually kept coming out of the bra when I was dancing which was quite awkward, but cos I had the top layer tucked in people didn't necessarily notice.

I've known for a while I was genderfluid (I identify as MtF and genderfluid because both feel truthful to me - I wasn't to go on HRT and transition, but I also know that sometimes I want to be male-presenting. Idk how to explain it bettwr than that) but again yesterday was one of the first times really allowing myself to live that truth. And I'm so glad I did. I'm looking forward to doing that more and becoming more and more comfortable in being myself. :3