Do I need to tell people I'm on E?
Before getting into this, I'm genderfluid MtF and have been considering estrogen since December. There are a number of reasons I'd want to undergo HRT but thats not really the subject of conversation here, although I'm happy to discuss it.
I haven't told my parents or any of my family that I'm genderfluid. I'm not sure if it's particularly any of their business either given that gendering me to my sex assigned at birth isn't necessarily "wrong". However, given that I've not told them, I'm not sure if, should I go on estrogen, that would be the right gateway to try and explain it to them.
Would it be okay to go on estrogen and maintain a relationship with them without ever informing them about it? With development of breasts I'd be comfortable binding or anything similar if I needed to (I'd be doing that anyway on days I felt particularly masculine) and I get the feeling that if I wear to do things like swimming with an oversized t-shirt on, they might not notice.
Some advice here would be great though! Especially if the conclusion is that I SHOULD tell them I'm planning on going through HRT. I don't know how I would approach that conversation.
Thanks in advance :)
I'm afab boyflux genderfluid. I've been doing the soul searching to finesse my gender identity and expression. Mostly figure out if I'm trans binary or genderfluid as is sometimes the way when gender dysphoria hits. And I was thinking back to my earliest memories and thoughts of gender and gender norms.
I remember enjoying things that are traditionally aligned with my agab and being confused as to why I wasn't allowed to enjoy masc things socially even tho I do and did back then. I was confused as to why there was even a divide between binary genders in social settings/gatherings and tbh I still don't really understand the reason aside from tradition and maybe saftey from shitty people.
I wish the world were more open and progressive but it's not quite there yet.
Curious to know if anyone else had these thoughts as a kid.
Hi! im 17 and am currently in a relationship with my girlfriend of a year, ever since we’ve been together i’ve identified as a trans guy, but recently i’ve gone through a lot of realisation that i am be gender fluid instead. my girlfriend has mentioned in the past about how she does not like girls romantically and it’s made me really worried on how she’ll take it. A lot of the time shes joked about the what ifs of me detransitioning and stuff and i’ve only ever laughed it off so i’m really unsure and nervous on what to do. i’m just looking for any helpful advice, thank you! :)
I’m trying to understand what I’m experiencing and whether genderfluid fits.
Day-to-day I’m comfortably masculine. I present as a guy, it feels right, no dysphoria. But in sexual and private expressive contexts, a feminine identity comes forward that feels equally real. When I crossdress, use toys, or imagine being desired as a woman (specifically pregnant), something clicks that doesn’t exist in my masculine presentation.
This has been happening for over a decade. In my early 20s during out-of-town sales trips, I’d buy maternity dresses, wigs, and lingerie at Walmart or Target and dress up alone in hotel rooms. It wasn’t sexual acting out — it was trying on an identity that felt compelling.
Years later I brought it up to my wife — specifically wanting to crossdress as a pregnant woman. She wasn’t into it, so I suppressed it out of fear. But it didn’t go away. I kept exploring privately. I’ve dressed fully as a woman alone and felt more confident and sexy than I typically do. I ran a gay OnlyFans presenting femininely and felt genuinely good about how I looked and was received. The pull toward inhabiting a feminine body — especially pregnant — goes back to childhood.
But it’s contained. The feminine side doesn’t bleed into my work life, friendships, or daily identity. It shows up in intimate contexts and then recedes. I’m not questioning whether I want to transition. Both sides feel true depending on context.
For those of you who identify as genderfluid:
Did you experience something similar where gender shifts based on context rather than time?
How did you know this was genderfluid and not just kink or fantasy?
Did one side feel like “you” and the other feel like performance, or did both feel authentic?
I haven’t talked to anyone who gets this. I’m looking to understand what I’m experiencing and connect with others who’ve been through the process of figuring it out.
What I mean by this, is when I’m at school I feel more masculine, however I always go by any pronouns at all times, and when I go out, like to the mall or something, I feel more feminine. So I go to school as a guy, and when I go home and go to the mall for work I’m a chick, lol 😛
Okay, so I’m assigned female at birth, and I just realised about maybe a month ago or a few weeks ago that I’m genderfluid. And I honestly just want help from people who most likely experienced it longer than me!
So, I know a lot of men wouldn’t be fine with dating someone who feels/is a man at times, yknow? Same goes for women because I’m bisexual. That’s fine too, because there’s nothing you can do, that’s their preference I won’t throw a fit😭 But I was wondering, when I date someone, should I let them know I’m genderfluid? Or in a talking stage even. Or if I should just let it be?
If the wording is poorly written, or if it sounds weird, please ignore it, it’s almost 8am for me and I haven’t slept all night cause of stupid homework 😭😭 And also thank you for helping me! It means a lot because I still have A LOT to learn about being genderfluid🙂↕️
This is going to be 18+
So… long story short, I’ve always been frustrated that I have a neurowiring dick but I can’t do anything with it. Then an idea came to me: since phantom sensations are real anyway; we should treat it as real. So I did and I’m still getting used to it. But basically having a dick attached to you now feels very disorientating because 1. The euphoria it gives makes me hard every now and then 2. I don’t know what to do with myself when I’m suddenly very interested out of nowhere.
And my dick is interested in a lot of things, now that I’ve let it out. Men, women, and just anything in general. This morning I woke up and, because my breast generally feels good before period, I caressed it. And look what popped up! La dee da, it’s my dick. You would have thought it’s going to be a pussy or that having these parts together are going to be contradicting. But nooo. My dick was very interested in the presents of my breast, and my breast feels the same.
I didn’t get off because I was afraid it’d be too intense. But for like 15mins on bed, I’ve become some sort of hemaphrodite being that enjoys itself.
I know this is very inappropriate, but also I’m sexually frustrated because there’s no way I could tell any people in my life that THAT happened. So I vent here instead. Oh my god, please tell me I’m not alone with this.
Also any dick havers are absolutely allowed to give me advice on how to do this. Because right now, I have no idea what I’m doing. And it’s not like there’s a beginner’s guide on how to have a dick for the first time.
I am 18F and my boyfriend is 18M(?) we have been together for a year and he just told me yesterday he is gender fluid. I do not know how to feel about all of this we are or were both cis and straight and I am only attracted to men but I do love him a lot and our relationship had been nothing but perfect except for this. I have been sobbing since he told me and I feel so horrible that I dont understand it. I come from a conservative family so i dont know how they would react if they found out (none of their business and i wont be telling them) but if he decides to tell them i dont know if it would be unsafe you know? I’ve tried talking to him about what it means to him to be gender fluid and he hasn’t really answered my questions and he is really upset that I said to him “I don’t really know how I feel about it” i didn’t mean that in a way that i don’t support i just dont know if i can be in a romantic relationship with a woman at times. i feel so horrible about it because if it was a friend that told me and not my partner i would be in full support. I just need advice from people who have gone through this or something similar. I dont want to end the relationship but if im no longer attracted i dont know if i can stay. (Also just for clarification his pronouns haven’t changed yet and im the only person that knows about his gender identity)
Hey everyone! So I'm new to the whole Reddit thing, but I have so many questions and feelings about my genderfluidness that I have no outlet for. Recently, I, 29 amab, went out in full fem and it was such a life-changing experience for me. The feelings I felt when I looked in the mirror were indescribable. Now, I really want to exist closer to my desired ambiguously gendered self. What I wanted to ask is if any amab people have experience with going on HRT and if it gets to a point where you are no longer able to hide that you are on HRT from people that see you. I own a trade buisiness that requires me to go into peoples homes. I also live in the US where trans people are losing their rights as we speak. I'm terrified to lose business at best and that I will be hunted by my government at worst if I present too fem. I'm sure I'm overworried, but I'm afraid of going too far and never feeling masc enough again or especially of not passing as male at work.
Hey y'all. I also happen to be quitting weed too. I have never felt like more of a loser unfortunately lol. I started makeup while living in my car to soothe myself because I was so lonely and just kept ruminating. (yes this really happened for like 3 months in the co springs area). Don't worry I am not homeless now.
I wanted to feel important. I then saw it as an opportunity to be bold. To upload myself without a filter. To inspire. I hope I did to some people. But most of those videos were ran by rage about my childhood and not really intellect. But still involved my own music. And I really left that stuff up for months. It became a rage shitpost account honestly.
Some of it I don't regret. Some of it took balls my dude. Some of it was out there. We need more of that in this world. Really. But it started becoming psychotic recently. To the point that I was having delusions about power and trying to control the world through my music even though I had no listeners. I make it with passion. Trust me. So that's why I believe.
The truth is that some things are not your burden. If someone can do it? Great. If people can openly talk about something such as childhood abuse on tiktok, thats great. But it's now out there for the whole world to see. I'm glad nothing blew up. It stayed around like 50-1k views a tiktok.
I guess my question for this reddit is: As a straight 24 year old male experimenting with makeup... Where do I even go now? Sometimes its for myself. Sometimes not. I just need community really bad. I need people who accept me for who I am. I don't know where they are as a 24 year old and that makes me sad. I'm just not attracted to men. It's all love and thanks for reading.
I am genderfluid, AFAB, and I have a pretty feminine name. I am usually girlflux but I am sometimes a demiboy, and I don't really like using my given name when I am. I like my name when I am Girlflux/feeling some sort of connection to femininity, but I want to change it sometimes. Would that be okay or confusing/strange?
Ever since I’ve accepted my genderfluidity, I feel like I’m at war with parts of myself. When I feel like a woman/feminine or genderless/neutral, I’m sometimes uncomfortable with the part of me that’s a boy/masculine. I think my discomfort with the masculine/boy part of my gender might come from my lesbian identity. I’ve been trying to unpack this, but’s it hard and I’m having a tough time. It’s especially difficult when I’m feminine and masculine at the same time. It’s confusing because accepting the masculine/boy aspects of my gender has been freeing. Does anyone have any experience with this and what have they done to get through it?
I’ve always had very conflicting feeling with my gender. I (amab) used to think I might be a trans woman and then feel completely different the next day. Im also gay so I thought that was where my need to feel feminine came from. Media featuring trans women has always connected with me but it’s always felt like there’s something missing. Even modernly I feel like gender fluidity is relatively less talked about. I just feel weird all the time. Being gender fluid is really hard to come out as especially since I don’t feel like anyone would believe me or just care at all. Even writing this is really hard. I can’t imagine telling someone I feel like a girl; I have huge beard because I hate my face so anyone would just look at me and think I’m being silly. The days I feel like a man I can love myself; when I feel like a girl I just want to die because no one could ever see me as one. I have some girl clothes and I think I look really cute in them; I feel so afraid of anyone seeing me. I’m gonna try to wear the flowery top I have tomorrow when I go grocery shopping. I feel like I need to to stop this drowning feeling.
Im normally a female presenting person, but sometimes I’ll just look in the mirror and be like “Yo that’s not right.” It’s very rare, but sometimes I like to think I would wanna be a guy, but at the same time I mainly feel female. I am afab.
Would this make me genderfluid or something similar? I’ve used to term genderfluid for me for a little bit, but I was just wondering if my experience is similar to others so I can 100% put a label on myself yk?
Hi, so I’ve recently been wondering if I’m genderfluid. I am born female, and sometimes I just don’t feel that way. I had approached a couple of friends about wanting to buy a binder for as I call them “no boobs days”, when I don’t want to present female and they had all told me I might be genderfluid. I always thought I was just non-binary, but now I think I might be genderfluid . Am I?