r/genderfluid

Hey! I’m GF & AMAB and want to go out dressed in full stereotypical “femme” clothing - dress, wig, breast forms, heels ect… and looking for suggestions on places I could go. I live in a large city (over a million people) in the US and have a girl to go with me.

I know this is super general, but would love to hear any suggestions on places you went when you started presenting either more masc or more femme.

Thank you!
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I know there are lots of people saying they're bad to use, but I'd appreciate advice for my situation specially.

I can't get a binder because of parents and state laws, I have a larger chest, even compression sports bras still just give me really round boobs, and going loose is not an option (stairs without any support is hell, plus I dont want my nipples to stick out). Layers can only do so mucb, especially when it's super hot.

Thus the question: if I use an ace bandage to bind but do it loosely, what are the actual risks? And don't just say it's too tight, give me actual harms to my body. Also, are there any tips to make it safer/more comfortable?

Ayo folks!

Have a problem how to say for my friends that i like she/her pronunciations more than he/his, mainly i like being girl in my soul but in everyday life, in speech i always a boy, i don’t like male pronouns i don’t like my official name don’t like anything in me, so is that problem?

I think i’m afraid of rejection from my friends, after i say them that i’m gender fluid and i like girl pronunciations.
I don’t know how to say that to them, need i to break with them and find new ones how can understand me?

I have a gf now and she is only person that understands me, i love her so much actually she’s bi and she sees my situation more than all of us think

So can i get some advices from yall? I would very appreciate that

Say it with me
Say it again
Say it louder for the people in the back

Imposter syndrome for us unlableable deities, infinitely geometried spirits, mushy otherworldly entities and gentletheys is a product of being raised in a world that automatically applies a singular label to you the moment you’re born and then acts like that label is really aCtUaLlY the right one underneath it all and you’ll never be anything different.

To which I say… FUUUUUCK IMPOSTER SYNDROME.

I’m a being of pure creation, all of existence resulted in my being created, who THE FUCK gets to tell me that I am or have to be any fucking thing that any fucking idiot tries to tell me I am, much less the fucking idiot I am myself.

YOU are so blindingly unique and yourself and worthy of every single piece of joy that is already yours for just existing right alongside every piece of pain and hurt and rejection, YOU are incredible and perfect.

I want to hear the hills sing with gender-fluid joy as we tear down the systems of oppression and become whatever the fuck we want to be without restriction or question or reservation.

Are we imposters? Fuck yes we are, because the world tried to force us to be something entirely artificial, something utterly made up, in order to sell us a consumer lifestyle of greed and convenience at the expense of literally everything real. The only imposter syndrome we need to worry about is the one we’re all in the process of escaping every single day called heteronormative monoculture.

Burn like suns you glorious creatures. I love all of you.

Basically, I want to know in the experience of UK Genderfluid people, what clothes store has been I guess the most accepting of you shopping for say clothing of the opposite binary for days you feel say masc as afab/fem as amab or buying neuter clothing for days that are less defined. (Idk if this makes sense and I’m happy to edit change wording or delete the post) but like I guess I’m just curious and wondering, cause I (AMAB) want to go skirt shopping soon for my fem days but I’ve been having my ass kicked too much worried and overthinking things. Just for context, I have one supportive best friend who knows and family who know and support me but compromised on things at home with me, mainly for extended family and for how gendered my mother tongue is.
Sorry if this makes 0 sense.

Shocker shocker, same problem as everyone else under the sun. Looking for shirts or undershirts or whatever to help present as more masc or fem as and when need be. I once saw shirts that have like pressure points that either flatten or accentuate the upper chest but can't seem to find them anywhere, which is a bit sad. Any help in that vein of body shape presenting that is reversable for when presenting the other gender would be much appreciated.

i just shaved my legs for the first time and it feels really good . it feels weird too . also i cant wait to add it into my routine . it'll help me feel a bit more feminine .

Hey everyone! I'm sure this has been asked a million and one times on this subreddit. But I recently started letting myself express more openly, but I've been having trouble finding almost "Gender-neutral" clothing. I want things that aren't overtly fem that I can wear to work (I do somewhat physical labor so it's gotta be able to hold up) but won't feel awful against my shaved skin (I'm half Hispanic so body hair doesn't stay gone longer than a day and I don't always have time to shave every shower). I don't really want graphic tees. I wear mostly button up shirts and jeans/khakis to work. If you have any brands that are a go to for you please let me know! I'd also like some stuff for going out but I'm sure I can find stuff for that more easily as that isn't strictly non-fem stuff. I appreciate any and all recommendations!

I don’t know if I can vent here or not, but I’ve been dating this girl for about half a year, I love her so much our relationship she’s always been a girl just a girl nothing else. But recently she opened up to me about feeling like a girl and a boy. She told me she didn’t know what it was so I showed her the google definition of gender fluid and she said that’s what she is. She’s still trying to accept herself she says it’s comfortable to her but it’s always something she can’t control. I’m a straight man, I strictly date women I’ve never been in a relationship with a man. But I’ve struggled with HOCD for half a year in 2025, (HOCD is homosexual ocd, I pretty much had a fear of being gay) I was able to beat it and come to peace with myself as a straight man. But now that my girlfriend is coming out to me I feel it coming back and I’m just overall confused can I be a straight man while dating a gender fluid girl. I don’t see myself as pan or bi because I don’t like men nothing about them excite me, and in a dating manner I want a woman. But if a girl has guy pronouns I’ll still date her, when she opened up to me I honestly didn’t mind, I love her so i accept her, she wanted me to call her nicknames like i use to call her but in a male version. Like I use to always call her “pretty girl” I’ve been calling her “pretty boy”, “handsome”, “beautiful boy”. And she likes it and it makes her happy I’m glad it does. But it’s triggering my hocd and I’m confused if I’m still straight. I wanna be straight, and I also wanna treat her the way she wants to be treated. I don’t know if I’m just dealing with fear and anxiety because in the moment calling her, these things don’t make me uncomfortable and they don’t feel wrong. But being gay makes me uncomfortable doesn’t feel right and feels wrong. She said she wants to be called the stuff. I used to call her when she was a girl and the new things as a guy and I don’t mind at all. But fear and anxiety has been getting in the way and clouding my mind.

So im all over the place and id say its close to 40% masc spec, 30% enby spec, and 30% fem spec, AMAB, but i have some deeeeep swings, and so ive come to ask for some advice on how to deal with the dysmorphia. Like, rn, im super deep fem to the point im in that last few % of the fem side of the spectrum where i want the penis GONE, GONE GONE, DELETED, GET IT OFF. ive been here before and just suffered through it and at the same time i know this is just a girl phase and i know that majority of the time its gonna be either ambivalent or the opposite about genitalia and it wont be an issue, in fact i know that more often than this im gonna be the opposite and if i actually went to get some sorta bottom surgery it would only be making the problem worse because i have more masc days where i would both regret it AND have dysmorphia about the vagina than fem days where it solves things. and i just, i need some help, how do other people deal with this? Im so jealous of this one One Piece character, Emperio Ivankov, since their Devil Fruit is the fluid DREAM of being able to just hot swap hormones and physical sex on a whim. Im so jealous of even static trans since they can just one and done get some gender affirming care and never have to deal with this again. and i just, i need help.

So i recently just shaved my thighs, happy trail, and arms , (not my lower leg area cuz i didnt have time haha) with a standard disposable razor. it felt really good, but i quickly realized how much more hair i have in those areas and i missed some spots. (specifically near my chest)

was wondering a good and effective way to shave off body hair? i was thinking about buying one of those bikini trimmers off of tiktok shop. also i cant really do laser or wax because im broke :d

any advice helps :]

So I came here to ask you all for advice on whether my recent feelings count as genderfluid. Now I’m going to guess not, but I’m really just hoping that you all will be able to connect it to something else, or at least just explain what is going on because my brain will not let go of this.
 To start off, I’m a guy. I was born a guy and have felt so all my life. Very late last year I sort of started my queer journey as a person when I came out as bi to a few friends, and later abro (so I already have some minor experience with all of this changing stuff). From then to now, I’ve noticed myself intermittently feeling a lot more fem than normal which I found odd, but went with it and enjoyed it. Now the thing is, I definitely don’t feel fem all the time. I can explain it like this: When I’m in school, with those friends, having to manage work and talking to certain people, I’m at the default, which I would think is feeling more masc. On the weekends when I’m away from school and with my other friends (who are much more accepting than the people in my school) I gradually start to feel a lot more fem. This has been an on and off thing for a while stretching from January to June, but now I’m on summer break. I’ve been away from school for weeks. Because of this the same thing has been happening where how fem I feel as been building … and yesterday it… popped? Essentially what happened is that I randomly started thinking about something that sort of stressed me out (Sort of related to identity, but it isn’t actually important), and my OCD didn’t like this which caused me to overthink about it, and all feelings of femininity to float away at that moment… I was genuinely confused. I felt like I had just gone back to the “default”, but it actually made me question this time what the default is because I sort of just felt nothing for the next 2 hours. Now it's the morning, and I’ve found myself actually sort of longing to feel that femininity again, but it's not really the same and it just doesn’t feel right, right now. It's sort of like I want the dopamine and feeling that comes with being cute, but I have no want or motivation to do it. 
Anywayyss.. This finally got me seriously thinking about gender identities, and what all of this means in relation to it. First realization: I don’t think I’d ever want to be a girl?? The she/her pronouns just feel so wrong, and I don’t think they fit me at all, despite this weird experience I’ve been having with femininity. I mean I know that gender expression is different than gender identity, but what does it mean that I’m having the same kind of ebb and flow of masc to fem feelings when I don’t want to change my identity? Is that normal? A similar thing applies to they/them pronouns. I don’t think I’ll ever not be a guy, it just feels completely wrong. 
So if I’m not genderfluid, what is with these weird sudden changes I feel with how masc or fem I feel??? It always makes me question if I was just pretending to feel it before and it's so annoying (Same thing applies with me being abro, I spend way too much time thinking about these things). So really; am I just cis? Genderfluid? Agender even? I don’t really understand gender identity, or what it feels like. I think the the cis people I know just consider their identity as what feels normal, and the default. Not overly masc or overly fem, just what has always been normal, but I feel like something is off with me. I mean, if I sit in my room too long I sometimes start to feel fem, but if my parents come in to talk to me I immediately start to feel a lot more masculine. I’ve spent at least 2 hours contemplating, I think I just want answers even though it's not that easy. Thanks for any help!

i’m a masculine presenting amab genderfluid person and i always feel like such an ‘imposter’. i don’t believe that clothes or the way you present yourself is restricted to your gender identity but i still feel like im just larping. im also hesitant to claim the lesbian label because i feel like a glorified straight guy with extra steps. i’ve been trying to lean into a more androgynous look but im also a frequent gym goer so it’s just one step forward two steps back kind of thing. i’m kind of just putting this out there if anyone feels the same way or whateva. rant over .

i'm pretty sure i'm genderfluid, though i fall more into female identities more than male ones. but i've realized i never feel masculine or the need to feel masculine? even when i feel.. like a man if that makes sense. it's always feminine identities, including a feminine male, and i really want to know if there's a term for that? i saw genderfae/genderfaun but i think one of those excludes male identities as a whole? i still align with.. being.... a man?? on some occasions, just in a feminine presentation. i'm so sorry if this is confusing, haha, it's confusing to explain and whoopy-doo to me too. help, please!

Hi, I was reflecting on the concept of unisex and genderfluid clothing today.

Do you think unisex actually exists or, when it comes down to it, is it just that women's wardrobes have become more similar to men's for historical and practical reasons? Why is the reverse path so slow and difficult for men to break into everyday life?

If we think about it, it is now incredibly common to see women wearing boxers as underwear (obviously tailored for the female anatomy) or regularly using items from the men's wardrobe for comfort or style, and nobody thinks twice about it. On the other hand, finding a men's skirt in a regular clothing store (not high fashion or niche) is still extremely rare (at least here in Italy), and a man wearing typically feminine elements still attracts a lot of stares and prejudice.What do you think? Do you also notice this strong asymmetry?

I want to be more confident in my body through my clothes. I've had the same style for six years; the same wardrobe as i did when i started high school (im 20 now). I'm looking for any advice from someone who's been in a similar boat as me. Below is a bit of info about my preferences for clothing and other things (it's a bit long im sorry ;-;)

My selection of clothes currently consists of graphic tees, baggy jeans, cargo shorts and occasionally a flannel or a hoodie, most of them in black. I want to incorporate more color into my clothes; darkness is nice, but you cant always be dark. I am a big fan of any cool colors (blue, green, purple) and any article with these colors would be lovely.

I am not a fan of scratchy or stretchy textures. If possible, all of the clothing must be cotton (some polyester is okay). I also do not like when clothing tugs on my body. If something hugs tight, it must be for a purpose (to look hot is a purpose in some cases).

I like when my clothing reflects my interests and bits of my personality. I am a big fan of star wars, dbz, minecraft and tactical fps games (etc). My go to has been graphic tees but i know that there is better ball knowledge to pull from. I think that it would be lovely to have clothing FROM various IPs that i like (star wars jacket, turtle school branded item). Another lovely idea would be to use certain pieces of jewelery or charms from various things (i already have a silver time ring from dbs) and small things like patches or trinkets to decorate my bag.

speaking of ..

Two months ago i hand stitched a dark grey denim bag from a pair of torn pants (hilarious story). I want to be able to incorporate this bag into as many outfits as possible since i use it very often.

Lastly, if anybody has ideas on what to wear based on body type, im about 5 foot 8 with a bit of a stocky build and born male. i dont have too much body fat and exercise regularly (and shower frequently dw). I mostly present male but i would love to add a bit of a lady's touch every now and then. As of right now i mostly dress more femme when i go out to parties or shows, or when i feel like it. I'd like to dress more femme in general to make it feel a bit more balanced.

I can't think of anything else at the moment but if i can think of anything else i'll add it in an edit or a comment or smth. and thank you for reading all this !!! i know it's a lot but if you read it all i'd appreciate any help. thank you !!

I recently decided that I want to move towards identifying as genderfluid as this feels like being more authentic in who I am. I would like to find a career path where I can be openly genderfluid and it's not just tolerated, but actually accepted. I would like to be able to be creative, but i have no idea what I want to do. I have an Associates of Applied Sciences and am a COTA in the medical field. Ive been considering art therapy but im not sure how in-demand that kind of job is.

Does anyone know of good paying career options where i can be more authentic without it affecting my job stability/security?

Salut c la 1er fois que je crée un post sur redit (car habituellement je n’utilise pas redit) mais la j’ai besoins de conseils : avant il y a quelques mois je me considérais comme une femme cis et omnisexuel . Mais quand j’ai rencontré un de mes meilleures ami (il est trans) je me suis posé des questions sur les identité de genre afin de mieu l’aider ect . Un jour le me suis renseigné sur les demigirl et je me reconnaissais dans pas grand chose au debut puis plus le temps a passer plus je relatais a cette définition. (Meme si des fois je me demande pas si je suis pas juste une femme cis perdu. Car g commencer a avoir de la dysphorie uniquement apres m’être renseigné sur les demi girls est ce que c normal ??) Donc je me suis mise a me considérer comme drmi girl (uniquement au pres de mon meilleure ami) mais depuis quelques jours je me sens des fois non binaire, agenré, fille , et des fois un peut homme (mais pas vraiment plutôt demiboy car je ne me retrouve pas assez dans l’appellation "homme" mais ressent une certaine masculinité). Bref est ce que tout ca peut definir une identité de genre fluide ?