u/Imaginary_Bread7907

I am very new to this and I wanted to know how you do it with your name? Sorry if it is a dumb question.

Do you use multiple names for the gender you are currently performing or you keep using one name regardless of the gender? I am saying because when I am presenting as a woman, I feel weird using my birth name, if that makes sense. But at the same time it sounds kind of complicated for everyone to deal with me one day being e.g. Anna and the next day being Josh.

I don’t know I am just curious how you deal with that and if I am overthinking it.

She dumped me two weeks ago and today she came to get her stuff from my house. I have tried really hard to make this relationship work but even after everything, she said she doesn’t want this. I proposed couples therapy, seeing we were together for almost 6 years and we had a future planned together but today was the last day to accept my offer and honestly, I am tired.

She told me she needed to gather all her strength to let me go and I feel like an idiot because all this time I was gathering my strength to fix this relationship and chose her all the time no matter how bad the situation was. I mean, what a waste of time seeing I have always decided to stay by her side because I thought she wanted me, and now you tell me that was not true? You were just scared of being alone?

I feel used and discarded because how long were you feeling you didn’t want me anymore? Months or years? The worst thing is, that I was not like this. I learned to never give up for the person you love because of her and now what should I think?

I am going no contact and never coming back and I really hope she finds whatever she is looking for. I really wish she finds happiness but eventually, so will I. The thing is, I know in my heart we could have stayed together and made it work but she gave up and I know, that there is nothing I can do to change her mind. I am tired of hoping that one day, she chooses me, so I am choosing me instead.

How can someone tell you that they love you while simultaneously tell you they don’t want to be with you? I hope she never regrets her decision because right now I know I wouldn’t be strong enough to respect myself and find someone else that actually wants me. Right now I want her back.

I have been looking everywhere for solutions and something that I always read is that when getting too aroused I should slow down. That I should think about it like a marathon, and that sprinting all the time won’t help.
However I am not sure if I am different or doing something wrong, because slowing down only makes me feel everything even more. I try to breath and calm down but it only makes me want to eyaculate more.
This is one of the reasons why when I am with my partner I don’t start slow, because going slower makes it easier to come in seconds.

Any tips on my situation? Am I approaching everything wrong?