AITA for perm banning the autistic kid from our friend group gc server
I am 15 (M), i have a nice group of friends who always hang out with and we are rly close. We have this discord server where we vc a lot and play games together, it is owned by a previous student in our school whos our friend (hes out of school now). theres like 30 other out of school friends in this server.
Recently a new kid (lets call him Jonathan) came to our school and we were rly respectful with him after learning abt his conditions and we took him into our friendgroup, he was not that close but we were all friendly and inclusive to him.
However, after he joined the server, Jonathan became completely annoying: he was spam pinging everyone in the server, spamming words that didnt make sense, and joined a lot of calls that we had and just screamed. As the mod of the server i told him to be respectful to other ppl and follow the rules, but he thinks that we are targetting him because of his autism. I told him that his autism does not mean that he should be a jerk towards other ppl and it turned into a huge argument. I decided to give him another chance by just timing him out for 2 hrs.
after that two hours, he absolutely went afar, spamming more and saying that we all in the server dont care abt him. So i removed him. I think he begged one of our friend who wasnt aware of the situation to add him back, at first we didnt say anything, but after seeing the comments saying how annoying he is by the server members during the time he was gone. He initiated yet anothr argument. so I perm banned him. Now he is threatening to report us saying we are not being inclusive, and completely just sideeyes our friend group and looks at us maliciously. he also told the other friend group in our grade of our "atrocious" behaviour, they did not believe it but his threat to tell the principal abt this is not exactly a comfortable situation to be in. my friends said that i was too decisive when banning him but they would tolerate any consequences and not be mad at me. But i still feel bad because i am the one who did the thing to endanger the whole group. So AITA?
I asked my gf abt this and she said I was mature with my call to ban him: warning, striking, and then banning. However im still like shaky abt the situation considering that he does have neurodivergence.