u/Deep_Bullfrog_5404

Hi all, my kid is starting to turn from a lovely, sweet boy into a kid I don’t like. He’s swearing at me, trying to hurt me. He’s a big boy and physically I am struggling with him.

For my birthday I decided to take us all to the circus (just acrobatics and a clown). We bought more expensive seats to accommodate him, went early so he could look around and spoke to the staff about him being able to stand at the back / leave whenever he needed.

Despite all of this he refused to come in. Wouldn’t even look inside. Starter running into the parking lot etc. i had to physically manhandle him to keep him safe as I had to get back to the tent in order to swap with my husband. I explained multiple times that no acts were on but he point blank refused and was making himself unsafe. In the end he and my husband sat in the car for the whole thing. I am so angry at him that he didn’t even try, he was texting me from my husband’s phone (my husband didn’t know) swearing at me and telling me he hates me.

It is just because he would rather be on his iPad than do anything else. This happens every time I try to do anything, even something he enjoys, even somewhere he has asked to go… I told my husband I am done taking him anywhere and that I think we need to seriously address the iPad issue. Both of which my husband disagrees with, says his iPad is good for him and teaches him a lot but it also teaches him bad things like the swearing.

I think this is the finally straw for me. The past 6–12 months have been getting progressively worse. We are planning a trip to Disney but I told my husband I don’t want to go anymore as we will spend thousands just for him to ruin everyday, it isn’t just that he doesn’t want to do something, he gets mad at me about not wanting to do the thing so starts trying to physically hurt me and say mean things even if it is something he likes / has done before for some reason him not wanting to do it is my fault? My husband thinks I am being unreasonable but I just feel done.