Anyone else have needy a$* grown neurotypical siblings that suck up all the energy from your mom/parents
I’m newly diagnosed in my early 30s. I’m pretty independent so I when I do ask my mom to do something with/for me she is ALWAYS too tired or worn out from doing for my siblings/niece who are neurotypical, have no disabilities, and are adults. I don’t ask for much when I do ask I feel like most of the time I should be told yes(especially because what I ask from her is NOTHING compared to what they do). They’re also rarely ever told no. I’ve been having a lot of trouble with this emotionally to the point I have such bad gastroparesis flairs I end up in the hospital. Something as simple as letting my dog outside because I’m doing something or running 4 blocks up the street to the drug store I get told no or get little side comments or huffing and puffing because she’s too tired. Everyone else gets what they need from her except me. Just wondering if anyone else runs into this problem. It’s been going on for some time about a year n a half with nothing changing even after going to more than one therapy session and sitting down and talking to my mom about it telling her how much it hurts and affects me and how I need more from her. She sees how sick I get and how much it affects me and says she hates when I’m sick or upset but is doing nothing to stop the cause. Idk how much more I can take.