I've been seeing my AP for nearly a year. It's been great and I feel very attached to him although I don't think he feels the same, although he certainly lusts after me. For the first few months he messaged loads, then it dropped back a bit, then a bit further, stopped saying good morning etc. Now i might get one message a day if I'm lucky, but nothing all weekend. He's also stopped sending photos, and never instigates chats anymore etc. Whenever I've mentioned it he apologises and says he's just busy. Which i know he is. So I spiral with the lack of contact and lose connection with him.
This is when I chat to other guys, and someone has caught my eye and wants to start an affair. We are due to meet for coffee this week to see if there's a mutual attraction. He sounds honest and reliable. Yeah how ironic.
I feel heartbroken at the thought of ending my relationship with my AP, and wonder if i should just accept him as he is. I don't want to fall in love with anyone as I know affairs ultimately end in heartbreak. The pAP is very keen to start a long term affair if the chemistry is there.
Should I be ending the affair and having a break before starting another? Should I perhaps try before I buy then decide, or could I perhaps see both of them?!!
My head is a total shed and it's affecting my mental health and wellbeing.
Thanks in advance for any opinions!!