My relationship with my dad is weird.
My dad would constantly make sexual comments on womens bodies around me as a young child and tell me that he was showing me how “men think.” When I started to develop and mature he started making comments about my body. When I was 13 I was living with my mom but would occasionally see my dad on weekends or ask him for rides around town, and everytime I saw him he would make sexual jokes/comments towards me. Sometimes right after making a sexual comment he would ask me to hug him and if I said no he would say “come on, im your father its not weird.” I told my mom the things he would say to me and she admitted to me that when I was a child (5/6ish) he told her that me and him had “sexual tension,” she also told me that when I was a child he said that when I was 16 he would be able to tell if im attractive or not. He has said many things to me about 16 year olds such as “A man can absolutely be attracted to a 16year old, but im not” “I guess youre starting to understand why they call it sweet 16,” “biologically you are able to make a kid at 15/16 so men are going to be attracted to you.” Around 14/15 when I developed a fuller chest he would make comments about it, ask if he could poke it (to which i said no) and a couple times he poked my cleavage at random without any warning. His actions are often disguised behind “playfulness” but I think his true thoughts are worse. My mom told me that when I turned 9 (the age that girls typically start puberty) my dad seemed to like and respect me less. My dad has done alot for me and during my childhood he was very active in my life, I feel guilty that we arent as close anymore because Ive pushed him away and havent tried to maintain our relationship. Do other peoples dads act like this?