Me (35F) and a man (37M) have been in a long-distance relationship for two years, but he refuses to video call or meet in person. How do I uncover his true identity?
I am a 35F who has never been in a relationship before. Two years ago, a 37M reached out to me with a marriage proposal. I wasn't interested in an arranged marriage, so I took my time, and he waited patiently. Although we are from the same state, he claimed to be working in Delhi with plans to move to Mumbai soon.
We chatted consistently, and after six months, we entered into a relationship. However, the major issue is that we have never met in person or had a single video call in two years. Whenever I push to meet, he gives me dates that constantly get pushed back. We have had countless arguments and "breakups," but we always reconcile because I keep hoping he will follow through.
I have many doubts about his intentions. He has never asked for money or inappropriate photos, and he is available to talk on the phone at all hours, which makes me question what he is gaining from this. He currently claims he is undergoing cancer treatment and will visit next month, but he has used similar excuses over ten times. I am now certain he is lying about his life and location.
I need advice on why someone would commit to a two-year "relationship" without ever meeting or video calling, even without asking for money. Additionally, are there any legitimate ways to verify his identity or location using just his phone number? How do I finally end this cycle and move on?
TL;DR: I have been in a virtual relationship with a man for two years who refuses to video call or meet. He constantly makes excuses about his location and health. Why would someone do this, and how can I verify if he is a real person or a fraud?