Seeking insight to support and better understand a loved one struggling with binge drinking and trauma.
Hi Reddit. I’m looking for advice or insight from people who have experience with binge drinking, addiction, trauma, or supporting someone through it.
A loved one of mine is a man in his mid-40s who binge drinks heavily — usually litres of vodka over a 3–5 day period, then stops drinking completely for around 1.5–2 weeks before repeating the cycle again.
From what I understand, a lot of this comes from untreated trauma and likely undiagnosed mental health issues. He struggles to reach out for help because of fear, shame, and the feeling that drinking is the easier option compared to facing what’s underneath it all.
I’m trying to better understand:
- What effects can this kind of repeated binge drinking have mentally and physically over time?
- Is this pattern considered severe alcoholism even though there are “dry” periods?
- How much can unresolved trauma or mental health issues fuel this cycle?
- What approaches actually help someone who avoids or fears getting help?
- How do you support someone without enabling them or burning yourself out?
- If you’ve been through something similar personally, what helped you stop or begin recovery?
I’m not looking to judge or shame him. I care about him deeply and want to understand what he may be experiencing internally, and what realistic support can look like.
Thank you to anyone willing to share their experience or advice.