Am I the ass hole?
Hey everyone I just want to know if im a bad person for what I did.
This happened almost a year ago. I was dating a guy D who was single and had 2 kids with their ex-wife. We started dating in the end of 2024. At this time his ex-wife is engaged to a man that they had been together for 8 years. This man was also the guy she cheated on her ex-husband with. Fast forward to the end of March 2025, the fiancé of the ex-wife gets hit and killed on a motorcycle memorial ride. And I find this out by my ex answering his phone and I could hear his ex-wife crying through the phone. I asked what happened and my ex said KARMA... since that day they talked every single day. I understand grief is really hard to deal with and sometimes takes you into a deep black hole.
Ever since the fiancé died mine and my exs relationship got worse because he was paying attention to her. I had even told him im afraid of losing you to her and he told me I would never go back to that BITCH.
I was helping pay for the internet and food and basic necessities. I even had paid his gas when he couldn't afford it and his insurance. I was staying over a lot even though I had my own place. He never once mentioned anything about rent and or didnt bring anything up of if I could chip in. He didnt tell me he was over a year behind on his mortgage until he got a letter in the mail saying they were going to get ready to foreclosure on his house.
Near the end of our relationship I started getting an attitude because he spent his time on his phone talking to his ex wife all day everyday. He even told her that we didnt have sex very often. Im sorry thats not something you should be telling your ex wife.
He broke up with me may 15th of 2025 and got back into a relationship with his ex wife on May 25th 2025. This was just less than 2 months shy of her loosing her fiancé. I had a feeling that he broke up with me to go back to her because I knew he still loved her.
When I found out that he actually did get back with her and I called my sister who is friends with said fiancé family members. My sister said I should let them know what was going on. Which I messaged the fiancé brother.
This is the message
Hey C I know you don't know me and I never knew B, but I honestly think you guys should know what's going on before giving "ex-wife" any of the money that you guys raised.. unfortunately after B died "ex-wifes" has been sleeping around and I found out today that her and "ex" are back together.. I wish I could write this anonymously but I can't. The reason I know is because "ex" broke up with me to go back to her and his family...
The information I got about her sleeping around was from her 13 year old and her 15 year old. They were pissed off. They had said my moms a slut right in front of me and told me why. The reason I knew they got back together was because I was sitting right next to my exs mom at an event I invited her to go to and his messages kept popping up. And we were talking about him and his ex-wife.
The family of the said fiancé blocked her and won't give her any of his ashes, they donated the money that was raised to charity that the fiancé would support.
She keeps posting my name and everything on her Facebook still bringing up the fact that I'm supposedly the one who messed up everything. Im supposedly lying about everything.
I feel like her actions after the death of her fiancé of 8 years is what ultimately made the decision of the family not giving the ashes and money to them.