AITAH for not going to my little sisters graduation
AITAH if I (29f) don't show up for my little sister's (17f)high school graduation? It would be a 3hr drive and 1 night stay at my dads house. My step mom and Dad have split up, and it has caused so much drama within the family. my little sister has stressed me out the most and has told me not to go if me and my grandma are going to start stuff. Like really? I have no desire to see her mom (my soon to be ex step mom) while we are there. She got upset because I said that but I don't want to because I'm pregnant 9w and don't need the drama and stress right now.
Quick backstory
My step mom and I have never had a close relationship (thanks to her telling me very young she is not my mom). she made sure I knew that and was always so mean to me and my brother, so we were never close. we only had a relationship because of my dad, and she has tried to build a close relationship with my kids. she asked my dad if my kids can still be in her life and I said realistically, probably not. When we go to visit my dad, she will no longer be there, so how would that even work? especially if he finds someone else. Unless my kids actively ask for her, I don't see why I should have that obligation when me and her don't even really have a relationship. Also, my dad has never cheated on her, hit her or mistreated her in the 20 yrs they been together. He has always cooked, clean, taken care of the kids and given her everything shes wanted. He pays for everything as well. She's leaving him because he didn't tell her that he loves her like she wanted and thats fine if thats her reason but she literally took herself out of the home.
well, my little sister keeps dragging me in this and talking so much shit on my dad to me (her dad too) and I have reminded her over and over what he has done for them and they wouldn't have anything they have if it wasn't for him. Don't get me wrong he is not perfect at all but he is not a pos either. My step mom left the home to live with a friend but my siblings are still there. My little sister got pissed off and told me "Your mom left you and mine is still here" which yes my mom did abandon us when I was 6. that was one thing people have always thrown in my face, especially her mom my whole life. I hate that it gets to me, but damn why is that my fault? people throw it at me like I had any say in anything. I was 6 years old. She told me not to go if I'm going to start BS, and I told her I'm not going, but I don't care to start drama with anyone. I was literally going to avoid her mom for my peace. Also, I have always gone out of my way to show up for my siblings since I was 16 years old. I have bought them xmas, bday gifts every year since I was 16 and I tried to show up for one of her games (shes a cheerleader) but it got canceled the day we got there. I just feel like they don't appreciate anything and expect things from me. They've never bought my kids any birthday or xmas gifts or me for that matter. Don't show up for us and when we do visit they literally stay in their room the whole time.
I really don't want to go, and this has caused me enough stress as it is, and my sister has never even apologized. Would I be the asshole for not going?