Stop treating being mixed as a problem
Just some advice from an elder millennial / xillenial multiracial person: It helps to treat being mixed as a strategic reality to navigate than something you’re the victim of.
One advantage I noticed we have over most people is we’re highly perceptive and insightful: we can read incentives faster and more accurately because we aren’t as blinded by tribalism. We can see people as they are for the same reason.
Learn how to calibrate yourself to how people perceive you. For example as someone of Asian and European descent, I have to discern how someone perceives me quickly. White dude sees me as white? Asian? Mexican? Something else? Then gauge how he feels about that type of person and move accordingly. I don’t waste time trying to explain or defend my identity. If you’ve ever seen that rabbit-duck optical illusion that’s something we need to learn to navigate quickly. The “audience” is always going to disagree.
At the same time inside hold firm to your identity and how you see yourself. What you experienced growing up. You alone know what you experienced and what makes you who you are.
Build your identity on the internal. Values. Integrity. Skills. Hobbies. There are lots of “tribes” to belong to besides a race. Just make sure you pick one that takes you where you want to go. Early on I chose vices and ended up in a bad crowd.
We do face additional challenges but we also have some privilege and benefits. Don’t let the challenges weigh on you too much. I hope this helps someone out there.