r/mixedrace

I swear I always feel like I should b carrying a card tht says I'm not white just white passing. Lol .

Now dnt come at me fr this. A friend nd I went to lunch one day nd she is also biracial. She was yelling come on nd i responded wth, im coming nigger. I ddnt realize there was an older white woman behind me who said, um ma'am u cnt say tht. I responded wth no u cnt say tht but I can. My friend busted up laughing, cause tht woman thought I was being disrespectful to my friend. Lol. This literally became our lil joke fr months.

Now dnt get it twisted, I dnt use tht word in a bad way ever but it does on occasion come out. Usually it's cause were just playing. Has anyone white passing ever done sumthin similar?

So I am biracial mixed with black and white. One my parents is black and the other one is white so I am a 50/50 mix. I was wondering if I was able to identify as white. In terms of physical appearance many friends have said that I don’t look mixed and would have guessed that I am black if they didn’t know me.

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I was brought up to believe i was white nd 2 types of Indian blk foot nd Cherokee. Now however I took a DNA back when the pandemic started nd found out tht wasn't exactly true. See I found out I'm mixed blk nd white wth Indian. I always knew sumthin was different wth me then my so called relatives but was never told. Im 58f now. When in my 20s my mother introduced me to a friend she said nd this man kept looking at me like he was memorizing everything abt me. Not in a creepy way but more like he wouldn't ever see me again. He told me he hadn't seen me since I was born. I ddnt put 2 nd 2 together until 2021. I believe tht man was my father nd i was never told. Unfortunately I dnt remember his name just wht he looked like. Now all these yrs later I still cnt get answers but I'm living wth tht. I'm proud to say I hav his green eyes, lips nd his attitude nd my crazy hair.

Wish I could of gotten to know him better but life doesn't always go our way. If it wasn't fr tht test I wouldn't of known. Proud to say I'm a mixed woman nd I luv my heritage. Has anyone else experienced this

Im blk nd white but honestly I only feel my blk side. Worse part is I'm white passing nd i hate it. I've had sum bad experiences wth mostly white ppl finding out im mixed nd tht left a bad taste in my mouth so to speak. I had a roommate who's husband had a slave ownership paper from his great great grandfather nd he was so proud to have it. I told him dnt ever put tht on our walls or it'll dissappear, well I guess he thought it was a joke. Let's just say it spontaneously combusted. I have alot of dislike for white ppl. I'm not even close to any of my white relatives. Yes, I'll admit I've even said more than a few times I hate white ppl even though I am part of them. I just wonder does anybody else ever feel like this.

Hello everyone. I'm here because I want to ask you all if there's any of you people who are mixed but are totally White-passing?

The thing is, I'm 72% White (Spanish) and 28% Non-White (Taína/Black/Filipina). I have pale White skin, dark green eyes, straight light brown hair, and small European facial features. I'm ethnically Hispanic/Latina, but I got told my whole life that I look Polish or German... or basically anywhere from Europe. No one ever guesses I'm Latinamerican. I've been told that because of that I'm not Latina/not Hispanic (because I don't look like the stereotypical Mestiza Latina). That made me have an identity crisis when I was a younger. Like... some people tell me to stop calling myself 'Mixed' because I don't look like it, and then others have told me that if I don't call myself 'Mixed', that means I have inferiority complex and that I'm a wannabe White. I wish I had the same colors as Jennifer López, at least I would look ambiguous.

Being Mixed but 100% White-passing is too tiring mentally, tbh. Has someone here gone through the same thing?

for example some people wouldn't know about them being mixed, so you would never know. is mixed just caracterised by the DNA? because based on what I seen I've seen few people say that based on the culture they/or their parents grow up around.

Someone's who adopted or someone who grew somewhere else who say I am from (the country they were raised in / born / or they associate themselves the most with) they would have the culture like someone who grew up there right?

Do you think it's about race, ethnicity, culture? or all of them.

I understand that if you don't look for example someone from the country you were raised in or felt disconnected you would want to reconnect but in the end does that mean you're mixed? (the culture you grew up around and where you're from)

Just curious.

Just curious! I feel like this combo flies under the radar very easily most of the time.

Being mixed race, it's pretty much a given people will be confused as to what your ethnic background is sometimes, but when I tell people where my grandparents and parents are from they are COMPLETELY shocked and refuse to believe it, I had a girl cuss me out over it and loudly saying "stop fucking lying" and laughing making a big scene

It got so bad, another girl in my class started a rumor that my mom had cheated or that I was born out of sexual assault and calling me a "rape baby" just to bully me I guess

So at this point, when people ask what I am (because I guess they can't put their finger on it), I just say "mixed" and refuse to elaborate more because apparently its so shocking and I'm not allowed to have brown skin and brown wavy hair and brown eyes

So even though I know none of it is true and its laughably ridiculous, I got an Ancestry DNA test, and obviously, lo and behold, I am wonderful split between my father and mother's ethnic origins.

Having a DNA test doesn't stop the shock for some people but at least I have a scientific answer to random bullies

But even with that, I kind of wish I looked obviously mixed at least because this is ridiculous, but theres not much to do about it

I mean, I look like a perfect split of my parents, but because I dont have the stereotypical look you see online or would imagine, I must be a liar?

Im only anonymizing this in case anyone I know in person reads it after all the crap they give me. I dont even feel comfortable mentioning what I am online because I associate it with just getting so much crap over it

Just some advice from an elder millennial / xillenial multiracial person: It helps to treat being mixed as a strategic reality to navigate than something you’re the victim of.

One advantage I noticed we have over most people is we’re highly perceptive and insightful: we can read incentives faster and more accurately because we aren’t as blinded by tribalism. We can see people as they are for the same reason.

Learn how to calibrate yourself to how people perceive you. For example as someone of Asian and European descent, I have to discern how someone perceives me quickly. White dude sees me as white? Asian? Mexican? Something else? Then gauge how he feels about that type of person and move accordingly. I don’t waste time trying to explain or defend my identity. If you’ve ever seen that rabbit-duck optical illusion that’s something we need to learn to navigate quickly. The “audience” is always going to disagree.

At the same time inside hold firm to your identity and how you see yourself. What you experienced growing up. You alone know what you experienced and what makes you who you are.

Build your identity on the internal. Values. Integrity. Skills. Hobbies. There are lots of “tribes” to belong to besides a race. Just make sure you pick one that takes you where you want to go. Early on I chose vices and ended up in a bad crowd.

We do face additional challenges but we also have some privilege and benefits. Don’t let the challenges weigh on you too much. I hope this helps someone out there.

Recently saw this comedy show where someone said they were mixed German and English. And people had differing views whether they were mixed. With some giving the example that what if you’re Chinese and Japanese, you’re still Asian and it’s not mixed.

Personally, I consider myself mixed, although my mixture is from different parts of Asia. I’m mixed western Asian, central Asian, East Asian and south East Asian. I think these ethnicities look different enough that people can’t really tell what ethnicity I am when they look at me IRL.

My question is… what is considered mixed?

I personally do consider myself mixed.

Blaxican here

From the black side, I love the black energy my family has, where laughs aren’t just laughs but they are summoning forces from beyond the grave

there really is something about black laughter that they put their body and soul into, I have it too

From the Mexican side, I love that people make that stereotype about mexicans who party with their elementary school aged kids on a Tuesday until like 4am, those were the best

youll hear “en un rato” when it’s time to go, and then 4 hours later someone’s uncle shows up with beers and they tell the kids to play in a bouncy house or something

I’m sure there is some overlap with these, but go ahead

Hello everyone — hope this is the right place to ask this question! Apologies if it isn’t.

I have twin daughters who just turned one and are starting to talk, which has been incredibly cute and exciting. Their mother is of Irish descent, and my parents are from the Dominican Republic. I really want my girls to grow up proud of both sides of their heritage, and I’d also love for them to learn Spanish.

For those of you who speak a second language or are raising bilingual kids, what are some things you did that helped? I know the obvious approaches, but I’d love to hear more creative or unique ideas that worked for your family.

I feel like a lot of second-generation American kids never fully learn a second language because they grow up hearing it more out of cultural connection than necessity, unlike many of us who were raised by immigrant parents.

Thanks so much, and have an amazing day!

Speaking as an American person of African descent about other American people specifically of African descent, in my view, "colourism" isn't a real thing (I feel the same about "featurism" and "texturism," so when I refer to "colourism," I include those as well). What we describe as the phenomenon where lighter skinned people are treated better than darker skinned people, to me is simply just racism between mixed and black people.

We already have terms like "mixed" and "light-skinned," which is already a form of "othering" in the black community. Clearly we all recognize there's a clear difference between the two in appearance and lived experience. I don't think it's an out-there idea to commit to that difference.

The only reason mixed people are ever considered "black" in America is because of the one-drop rule, something we all know is beyond outdated at this point in time. Most other countries outside the US already recognize the difference, so there's no excuse for the US to not be caught up (not really surprising since the US isn't even caught up on education, healthcare, gun control, government regulation, metric system etc. lmao)

Dark skinned fully African-descended people do not deserve to be sharing the same racial category as people who don't look fully like them and who don't even go through close the same experiences as them, and they certainly don't deserve to be represented by biracials/lightskins on television or have biracial/lightskin people chosen over them for portraying black characters under the false guise of "they're both black, we just chose the better actor/actress" No. They aren't the same thing and they're being chosen off of complexion, not talent.

And mixed people don't deserve to be "one -drop-ruled" into black spaces, only to be treated differently in said spaces because they very clearly aren't the same as the people in the space they were forced into, because all this usually results in is identity crises. They don't deserve to be forced to "pick sides" and have to deny or irrelvantize any of their ancestry. They deserve to represent their own experience. Mixed people, especially biracials, deserve to tell their own stories on their experiences, not be the face of someone else's. And last, I even think it'd be beneficial for mixed people to have their own space to connect and form bonds with others of shared experience. Why can people of monoracial backgrounds have this, but not mixed people?

The "one-drop" rule was made up by white people to expand oppression. American society's continued social use of the one-drop rule is upholding white racist practices. Sure, white people certainly treated biracial/mixed people better than full Africans, but they still oppressed them. This isn't unique to mixed people either. White people historically oppress(ed) ALL people of colour, from all races, but we recognize all those other races as different from each other. Mixed people are just as much a valid racial group as any monoracial group.

I feel like American society pedestalizes monoracially at the expense of multiracial people. If you share enough phenotypical features with a monoracial group, you're automatically put into that group with zero regard for any nuance about the topic.

This is my current opinion based off what I know. I'd like to hear more perspectives on this from other people. Unlike a lot of "changemymind" posters on reddit, MY mind is to an extent actually subject to change quite a bit.

This is just a vent but if anyone wants to provide any feedback or tell me how to not feel this way about myself I'm all ears. I hate that I am mixed only because I look black. But my mother is Scottish and Mexican. And even though I look black and honestly I wish I looked more black than I do, I have terribly aging skin because of my mother. Of course I'm not irrational resenting her or my lineage but I can't help but hate my own DNA because everyone assumes that I'm doing something wrong or that I am on drugs or dehydrated because I'm 37 and look black so I should be looking like I'm 29 from what other people tell me. But I look terrible and have a wrinkles and porous skin. I hate it so much!

I'm curious is there anyone else with this mix? I Don't feel very black as I resemble my mom a lot. But I don't really feel white or mexican either. I find myself resonating with north african people for some reason because we look similar.

For example i'm algerian and somali and raised in the UK

I'm a human first and foremost

I love eating somali food listening to algerian rai music and sipping on a good yorkshire tea

I am simultaneously african, arab and british

I am my own thing as the result of that and I LOVE IT.

I reject any boxes i'm put into, for I am myself.