I recently found out that my girlfriend (20f) of 1.5 years may have cheated on me (20m). What next?
For a little backstory, me (20m) and my girlfriend (20f) have been dating since Nov ‘24 but both describe ourselves exclusive since early September that year. At the time this would have happened we had been together for just about a whole year. She has never showed signs of being unfaithful even to this day and openly expresses her disgust for cheaters often stating “if you ever…” followed by some grotesque way of mutilating my manhood. This rumor passed through exactly 3 people before it got to me. She allegedly told her close friend that was also my roommate(23m)’s girlfriend (20f) who promised her she would never tell anyone. Of course being in a relationship means that you tell your significant other everything (or so I thought), so then he (23m) was told. I recently had a huge falling out with said roommate over his antics and habits of disturbing the peace and cleanliness of our apartment (a story for another thread/time). I left the apartment for a few days and went back home. During those days I was home, another one of my roommates (21m) (I have 3 roommates for context, this specific one ended up being the mediator) called me to ask how I was feeling after the whole situation. After we got past all the small talk he told me why he really called me. My roommate (23m) had been talking behind my back to him including the claim that my girlfriend may have cheated on me at her cousin’s wedding back in November of last year. The wedding was out of state and 3 time zones behind, so I wasn’t able to call her like I usually do at night. I assume it would have happened naturally and not through premeditation like a dating app or dm’s. This rules out looking through her phone for evidence. Besides, I am hearing about this far too long after to actually find anything. I have no way to prove that she did anything, but at the same time I can’t just disregard this rumor. Any recommendations on what I can do to address this?
She returns from a 3 week long trip to California (she was babysitting her cousin’s child) next week on Thursday but I got first word about this on Sunday and it has been eating me alive. Do you think I should act normal over text and FaceTime? How do you recommend I approach the conversation? over the phone? in person? Not sure if I can hold out the full week.
Thank you in advance for your help. If you can think of a way to clear her without having to accuse her then please let me know. I’d rather not open a can of worms and damage our relationship over something my roommate who was infuriated with me alleged.