25M don't feel seen or loved by 26F girlfriend
To start off, we met in our home country, a country in Europe. After about a year together, she went to South Korea for an internship. I joined her there for a month, then went back home, so we ended up doing long distance for about 7 months.
Honestly, I feel like our communication back then went really well. We called often, talked about our days, and stayed connected. It also helped that I worked from home, so I had a lot more freedom to call or text throughout the day whenever we wanted.
That was around 1.5 years ago now, and we’ve been together for 2.5 years total.
Recently, I moved to Japan in March because it’s been my dream to live here for a longer period. I’ll be here until October. But since I moved, I’ve started feeling like she’s not putting in much effort anymore when it comes to calling, texting, or even being loving in general.
For example, she wakes up, gets ready, goes to work, and usually only starts messaging me around her lunch break. We used to always say good morning and ask each other how we slept, but now by the time she messages me, my day is almost over. Meanwhile, I still keep her updated throughout my day and tell her what I’m doing.
Then when I’m about to sleep, I text her “I love you” and go to bed, which is fine, but I’ll only get the same reply like 5 hours later.
I know she’s busy with work, and I also know it’s unfair to directly compare this situation to our last long-distance period because back then I had way more freedom during the day to text and call. But at the same time, I don’t feel like sending a quick good morning text while waking up or traveling to work is too much to ask. Lately I just feel really disconnected from her.
We called once recently and she mentioned saying she's kinda having the feeling of "out of sight, out of mind" and I replied with the same to keep the vibe going but it lowkey hurt a little hearing that. Also I asked her to try to give me some more updates throughout the day so I feel like i'm part of her day a little, but I dont get much from that. Am I over reacting or is this normal long distance relationship behavior?
TLDR:
Girlfriend doesn't put much effort in connecting in LDR, I feel neglected. Not sure if i'm over reacting?