u/DepartmentActive7481

hey so I think I’ve made it pretty clear that I like this guy and I’m interested in him, even asking for his number and making the first moves. however, he likes me back but is still really quiet around me (talks to everyone else js fine tho) and doesn’t text first. He also said he isn’t ready for a relationship right now, even though he texts me back and agrees to hang out with me. thoughts?

note: this is a massive dump and I don’t mean to overwhelm anyone I js need help please

okay, so ever since I got used by the first guy I ever truly loved, I was going to swear off dating until high school began (we‘re abt to transition). I was really hurt, and thought I needed extra time in the summer js to make sure I was really healed. I don’t miss the guy he is now and would not get back with him at all, and i’ve been working on myself these past few months / been doing self improvement to make sure I don’t end up in another relationship like that. I had no intention of dating. anyways, jumping ahead to a week ago, I met this guy while waiting in my friends class. Im not supposed to be in that class but the teacher is chill and let me wait in there before I got picked up. so i’m sitting there talking to my friends and this guy I don’t usually talk to is kinda js there paying attention to me and wanting to talk to me. mind you, I was not into this guy at first but the subject of the strokes comes up and he finds me later after class while i’m walking w my sister and mentions it again so then we bond over music. I found it cute how he got all shy and I wanted to get to know him better so later that friday I ask his close friend if his friend (the guy I was into) if he would be interested in getting my number or if I could have his. long story short, I got it and we’ve been talking for almost two weeks.

im so confused though, bc he doesn’t deny liking me and is interested in me, but he doesn’t text first and gets quiet when i’m around him. ik he can talk to other ppl bc he talks to literally everyone else easily accept for me and I feel that sometimes I may be unintentionally carrying the convo even on text. like we don’t talk unless I initiate it and I have to make the first moves. he’s shown signs of liking me so far, I’m the only girl he has liked this year / hasn’t rejected since his ex. my friends have also come up to him and asked if he likes me and he got all shy and said “yeah, she’s cool but I’m not ready to be in a relationship right now.” so i’m wondering if he‘s js stringing me on? I heard he had past relationship trauma but it’s been a year maybe longer, and why lead me on like this if you have no intention of dating me but are interested in me? I don’t mind taking it slow in fact I prefer it after all that has happened but it’s so confusing and yk I thought that maybe I’d give this one a try.

I’m thinking about talking to him when school ends over the weekend, bc i’m not about to spend my entire summer investing in a guy who cant imagine a relationship with me freshmen year. I need to know if i’m js being played tho, even if unintentionally bc I don’t wanna mess around I want something real. I want us to be on the same page. what should I do?