Vetting for porn use
I am getting back into dating and have gotten a ton of good perspective from this community. I would love to hear from women how to go about vetting for excessive porn use. In my last relationship, the man was amazing in a lot of way and I think he did mostly stop watching porn while we were together. However, it was so baked into his sexuality that I felt like it led to sexual incompatibility (could not get off from penetration alone, could not slow down even when guided, really into choking).
Is there a way to screen for this prior to sleeping with them? If so, how would you go about this conversation? I don't consider myself jealous, controlling or prudish, I just find it really takes away from a good sexual connection, which I highly value
ETA: Okay, I am open to hearing from men for whom porn is not a major part of their life, I am not trying to debate porn use in general