Was i scammed?
I don't really know if this is the right community to post this but I need some advice? I think I fell for a romance scam on TikTok. This guy started to follow me, I followed him back. Then we started messaging each other. All of this happened in the span of four days. He said he was 21 new to social media and wanting to meet some friends possibly a relationship. Im 41 and never been in a relationship. His age turned me off. I always liked older guys and fought him saying I just wanted to be friends. He was very persistent.
Looking back there were signs like he wanted to chat on WhatsApp, had some difficulty with English (but he said he was half italian). His phone number is a Montreal phone number even though he said he lives in the same state. He explained this by saying he got the phone when he was living with his aunt there.
He always wanted to know everything about me but was skimpy on the details about him. I fell hard like really hard and turned a blind eye to this. No matter what I said or as intense my feelings got I couldn't run him off. He said it showed how deep our love was.
He also sent me a nude pic which he looked slightly different than his TikTok pics. There are other things but what broke it off was this. He said his dad before dying left him 150,000 dollars in an offshore bank account something to do with Russian oligarchs. He couldn't get it until 2030 and the bank was closing down. So he wanted me to call this number and have it sent to me. When I said It sounded like a scam he exploded. Instantly he deleted the particular comments about the offshore bank. I couldn't get him to respond. I deleted the WhatsApp app.
This morning he sends me messages on TikTok saying let's talk and unblock me on WhatsApp. I just deleted my TikTok because I don't want to see or hear from him ever again. I guess my question is is it at all possible that I wasn't scammed? Could he find me and stalk me? I sent him a selfie of myself fully clothed so he'd know what I looked like.
I did not tell him my phone number or address. I wanted to call him but was still uncertain. I'm very insecure. I weighed 400 lbs most my adult life but am now 200. Wad I scammed? Am I stupidest closeted middle aged guy on planet Earth?