Is my girlfriend cheating of 2 and a half years cheating on me?
My gf (20) and me (20) have been together since we were 18. I had a feeling over the past couple of months that something just isn’t right.
I noticed over time her personality slowly changed into something completely different, she’s more angry with me, tolerates less of my humour and talks different to what she once did. Now, that alone can’t be a reason to suspect cheating, but it put a thought in my mind "what if she is". I know we are young and young people’s personalities can be easily shifted during this stage in life, but I just have a feeling that it’s not a “growing up thing” you know?
We used to go out to bars when we first met, we fell really fast for each other. We had so much passion towards one another and it just felt the only person she saw in the world was me. She would drive anywhere to see me (I didn’t have a car at the time) which made me feel so special and lucky.
However, I feel now like a stranger to what we once were. I missed this feeling of us just appreciating each other in the moment. The laying down and just hugging, the free flowing conversation and the intimacy we once had feel like a long time ago. It makes me really upset and whoever’s unlucky enough to be reading me blabbering on is probably wondering where the thought of cheating comes to mind.
Well…
I came over to her house to sleepover a couple months ago.
She goes to sleep earlier than me so she leaves the iPad on for me to watch while I stay awake. She keeps loads more photos of us and memories than I do and I was reminiscing during my late night thoughts. So I went through her photos on camera roll and found some things I found really questionable.
And I know before people say it that I’m violating her privacy, but we never had an issue with each other using the other’s phone.
I found photos of her and what I think co workers on a night out together. For some reason I felt instant dread. I looked through more and she is in photos 1 or 2 men with their arm around her waist. This made me feel very uncomfortable as I just don’t feel fine with others touching my girlfriend. I went though more and found more similar photos with different people, and one where her hand is basically resting on a guys crotch while he’s sitting down.
I dug deeper around the time we were just getting together. I find a TikTok draft in her camera roll with the caption “I think I’m falling in love” and in brackets says (I can’t stop cheating) and it’s her videoing herself singing a song. I felt like I was going to throw up.
Did I just not know the person I was getting with? Am I just misunderstanding this?
It hurt because I know she was a flirty girl before me. She’s really attractive and knew she was getting attention. We had a small issue at the start of the relationship regarding this. She let some other random man buy her a drink when we were out at a bar and didn’t see the problem until I got annoyed.
I need some help guys