[18M] with [19F]2-year relationship, long distance, feeling betrayed and confused—need honest advice
My girlfriend and I have been together for two years, and we’ve been long distance for about a year since she transferred to a different school. I’ve always been uncomfortable with her having a lot of male friends, and I communicated clearly that it hurt me when she was overly friendly with other guys. She told me she wouldn’t talk to boys on TikTok or Telegram, and I trusted her completely because I loved her deeply.
About a week ago, I asked for her Telegram account. She gave it to me, but I noticed she had deleted conversations with male friends. When I checked her saved messages, I found pictures and videos of her male friends—content that felt personal and flirtatious. I also saw that she had sent cute pictures of herself to them. This is when it became clear that she had lied to me about not talking to other boys, even though I had trusted her.
On top of that, there was one guy who was clearly interested in her and flirting with her. At the time, I didn’t know the full story. I had seen him comment on her TikTok and felt suspicious, so I asked her about it. She denied anything, saying he didn’t like her and that he was just alone. Later, I found out the truth: he had already asked her out, and she told him she would think about it.
All of this really hurt me. It feels like she was entertaining multiple guys while being with me. That night, I was extremely upset and nearly ended the relationship, but she cried, apologized, and promised it wouldn’t happen again. I forgave her.
Now it’s been about a week, and I’m still deeply hurt. I don’t know what to do. Part of me feels shocked and betrayed—I never thought she would do something like this. I believed she loved only me, the way I loved her, but she was being flirty with other guys. I’m stuck between staying and leaving, and I don’t know if ending things tonight is the right choice.