Advice of intimacy and attraction
I have been married for over a decade and struggle with confidence. I am not a huge fan of my spouse watching porn but after trying to explain my reasonings for so long and it still happening behind my back, I gave up and just let the situation be what it is. However, the topic did come up again recently and I asked my spouse why they insist on doing it every time I leave the house. My spouse said it’s because they aren’t attracted to me and because it’s just sex with the same person and it will never change so he prefers porn. I am not sure what to think. Are there any guys that can honestly tell me their opinion on this situation? Has anyone else felt this way about their spouse? Like is this normal? I ask how we could spice things up, what they would love to see and give options. They say nothing will change this for them because it’s still the same person. They said only a threesome would make it better. There has been many times where I thought that things were amazing in the moment. I have also found that my spouse likes to record me every once in a while whenever I can tell that they are really enjoying themselves in the moment. I have thought for a while that they may be addicted to watching porn. But obviously I do not think this way so I’d love to hear from someone who possibly does think the same way as my spouse. I’m just sad and confused…
TL;DR: souse isn’t attracted to me and prefers to masterbate. Spouse doesn’t think anything can help spice things up besides a threesome. I need advice from someone who may think the same as my spouse. I just want to hear from someone who thinks the same way as them.