u/DiamondCalvesFan

Many people who decide to start will turn to social media for inspiration. And yeah, they'll easily find fat guys and girls who are basically running, looking calm, not tired, effortless-and they'll decide to start running too. Then they'll feel the mismatch between the video and reality, and quit instantly.

Why? Because those fat influencers are not showing the real thing. They produce 10 sec. clips where everything looks easy-but they never show you what actually happens when you really push a fat body. And let me tell you what that looks like: it's a lot of sweat, uncomfortable breathing, feeling like you can't get enough air, and yeah-sometimes you throw up.

So here's my advice: when you start, stay in your own lane and don't compare yourself to others. Don't look at social media for inspiration. Just keep your head down for about 2 months-then go back and watch those fat influencers. You'll call them out instantly. Because in those 2 months you'll have built real training habits, and you'll know exactly what they're hiding from you.

Let me be honest again - if you're starting just to lose a few lbs because summer is coming, there's no point. It's like diets: short term solutions that won't work long term.

But if you want to change your lifestyle - and that doesn't mean going full monk mode-then you have a real shot, because that's the sustainable way to go.

Even small improvements in your eating, sleeping and training habits will give you enough results to push you to want more. And honestly? If you're fat and you just improve your eating a little and walk 25-30min. a day, results will come fast-because your body gets stressed in a good way.

If the answer is because other people are pushing you, you want to impress someone else, or whatever reason that comes from outside - I have really bad news for you: you're going to fail.

But if you're starting because of yourself, then we're opening a whole new page, and I have good news for you - you have a real chance at success.

Just know that also means you need to tackle everything that comes with it: the tears, the sweat, the frustrations.

Remember this: every beginning is hard, but that struggle is exactly what shows how committed you are. The drive has to come from inside you.

I was fat and I was addicted to sugar. Not like "oh I enjoy sweets" hooked, more like I genuinely couldn't go a day without it. I knew changing my diet wasn't going to be enough on its own. I had to actually train my brain to stop caving every time I saw something sweet.

What I did was kind of weird. I put a bowl of candies right next to my bed and just... left it there. The idea was simple: don't run from it, sit with it. The first few days were hard. But that was fine, hard was the whole idea. By week 5 I'd walk past the bowl and not even notice it.

The other thing that helped was carrying Raffaellos in my pocket when I trained. Sounds random but hear me out. When you are new to training, your body is under stress. In the beginning, your blood sugar isn't always stable, and from time to time, you can feel like you are going to faint.

Having those two little chocolates on me meant I always had a safety net. I wasn't eating them for fun, they were just there in case my body decided to quit on me.

I'm not going to pretend there's some magic trick to all of this. It just came down to building two systems - one to get my head right, and one to keep my body from falling apart while I was getting there. First I'd walk past and smile. Then one day I didn't even notice they were there

That was my method. What's yours? Genuinely curious.