u/Different-Claim-9782

One of my neighbors is a stay at home mom and I made the mistake of trying to have a normal relationship with her. While I stay home as well I have a teen that keeps me busy and volunteer around my community a lot so I am quite busy.

When we first started talking she told me she can talk to ghosts and that Native Americans sacrificed people and chickens in the basement of her home. Because of this her house is haunted and she has bones in her walls and basement. I didn't want to feed into these delusions so I would change the subject and she would always send me videos of bugs and dust, claiming they were ghosts. I decided to cut contact after she sent me a video of her tearing down a brick wall in her basement at midnight, she stayed up for hours ripping the entire wall down because she was convinced there were human remains in the walls. She even injured her back doing this but that didn't stop her. The next week she called the police and told them she has bones in her walls and they actually came out and tore into her wall, only to find rebar that had a wad of plaster or drywall on the end.

During this period she was also running background checks on all of the neighbors, went to the county clerk to get the deed to people's houses so she could do a deeper dive into their backgrounds insisting they were committing fraud and all sorts of other wild claims.

At this point I completely stopped talking to her. Instead of accepting this she started following me in her car daily while I was walking my dogs and would sit in her car outside of my house for hours. After a few months of this she finally stopped and I figured she had moved on.

She recently got back in contact with me and apologized. She also said she is on medication and realizes she was wrong about everything - she didn't have ghosts in her house, no, it was aliens trying to communicate with her and through her. She also asked me to pet sit for her which I didn't mind but she had amped her behavior back up to 3000 again. She sends me videos of airplanes and says the aliens told her they would fly over at a specific time, and this is irrefutable proof they are communicating with her.

I once again told her I need to take a break from my phone after she texted me 14 times at 7am saying we should ride the city bus around town and interview people for a newspaper she wants to start. I only responded to tell her I need a break from my phone. I guess she could tell I was pulling away because she started dropping random stuff off on my porch like old shoes, empty boxes she thought I would like, just odd stuff. I threw everything away and didn't respond to her so she started waiting for me to come outside and would ambush me and try to force a conversation so I started taking a different route on my walks. Since I was completely avoiding her she would get in her car and again follow me on walks and try to force contact that way. She was also sending angry texts about me ignoring her, you know the drill by now.

I'm not sure what happened but I haven't heard or seen her for a few days. I know she has a therapist and I am really hoping the therapist told her this is intrusive behavior.

Has anyone dealt with something like this before? When I stopped talking to her the first time she told people I killed my husband lol, my neighbors were texting me saying they haven't seen us in a while but it was winter time! She told them I murdered him.

So we have been having a bit of a disagreement this past week because my partner said something really disrespectful and insensitive about my body hair while we were intimate.

In the moment I didn't react and just brushed it off but as the days went on I was feeling really bad about myself and body, so I decided to tell him that I'm feeling really gross and undesired due to his comment. Of course he said it was a joke so we went back and forth for a bit because he kept saying he was just goofing off and being funny. But this is a pattern with him, he always has to put me down constantly, usually he just tells me I smell. So I told him no more comments at all about my appearance and smell, and he kind of agreed.

Another issue is he removed me off of his social media completely and deleted our photos together and all of my pics because I posted about the red Sox, and that made him jealous. He then said I'm not allowed to have male friends and that he considered that cheating and those are the reasons he doesn't want to be friends on social media anymore. He completely erased me from his online life. Because I made a post about baseball and have male friends. Keep in mind he has his ex's on social media and ofc likes every post they make and constantly comments on them, chats with them...which is whatever he is gonna do what he wants I don't really care.

So all week I have been trying to just have a conversation because obviously something is up and he just keeps yelling and saying I don't really feel hurt I am just using this to "dig into him" and "use it to lecture him". Last night he was screaming and I asked him to please stop because we have a child and he is scaring her, she came into my room to tell me as much. So I told him to stop yelling and cursing and then he just started throwing things at me, a full water bottle, crushed cans and threw them, then he picked up a new 18 pack of toilet paper and threw that at me.

So now I am worried he's going to start hitting me or something, isn't that the logical next step? I am in therapy and so is my kid. I DK what I am looking for here, just wondering if anyone else has experienced escalation like this?