u/Different-Honeydew30

I think I have quite an imagination for sexual activities and I think I am ‘educated’ in bdsm activities. I like similar things as my spouse, but I don’t want to actually do it as much so he thinks that I am faking my interests. Have you ever faced that? I love him to the fullest and I am satisfied always, but I mainly like to fantasise rather than actually do it. Any recommendations?

Me (F 26) and my boyfriend (M 25) are in a quite long relationship, we are really open and to live each other very much. But one thing is that he always wants to tie me up, bondage typa thing, tape or rope whatever and yeah earlier in our relationship it was not that noticeable (for around 3-4 years). At least I didnt think it was a prominent thing. Right now it started being the thing that always happens during intimacy and if im trying to say no he not directly says that im boring, of course he doesn’t pressure me but I know that he doesn’t get enough of his fantasies full-filled. I do know that he has other ways to fantasise about it and create something artistically and on a written version on the internet and I guess its fine by me. But im pissed that before for him it was fine to have diverse sexual life, but right now its starting to feel more stronger towards his needs. Also a few times he mentioned that some thoughts like having threesome with some of my (F) friends and he did fantasised about it. Im not feeling self conscious because I do like and love myself right now, but it makes me very uncomfortable idk. I mean I do get it from his side because I know that my friends (F) are good looking. Here is another problem, he is trying to convince me that Im bisexual and I never felt very sexual towards women physically but the idea of something intimate - yeah. Do I have a strong attraction to the point of actions? - no. But at this point in my life im starting to think that maybe I am but I wouldn’t interact sexually with a woman because it would be cheating. And maybe his intensified sexual bondage desires are going on a parallel with my thought about my sexuality? Maybe its a certain point in life where you trying to process what is really you with a little baggage of life experiences

I just feel like its never enough for him and I think Im trying to the point where I enjoy it. And I am sexy so its not from the lack of sexual femininity or something. I just feel like if some of his friends would offer him to tie and do sexual things with some girl, he would sign up or think about it for a while. Idk how to feel about it. And what even is this obsession with men and threesomes with their girlfriend friends? Cuz I’ve heard it now from a few friends as well.