two weddings on the same day, one ceremony starts 15 minutes after the other ends. could i do both?
Hi everyone, this is a bit of a tricky situation, and I'd love to get your thoughts on it.
One of my(26F) boyfriend's (27M) best friends (30M) is finally getting married. They've been engaged for years, but they're finally getting married this summer now that his fiancé is graduating law school. My boyfriend is officiating the wedding, and I've been officially invited instead of being just a plus-one.
I'm not very close with any of my cousins, but I live in the same city as one of them (27M), who got engaged last May. I attended their engagement party, but I was the only family member there, didn't know anyone, and left early. I feel like inviting me was more of a formality.
I've had the save the date for my cousins wedding for months, but my invite for the other wedding was sent to my boyfriends place so I never got the date until this past Friday. Both weddings are on the same date. My cousin's wedding is from 2:30-3:45, and my boyfriend's friend's wedding starts at 4:00, a 5-minute drive away. However, I'd probably miss my cousins reception.
I truly believe I could Uber from my cousin's ceremony to my boyfriend's friend's ceremony. My parents are flying in for the wedding, and my mom said the ceremony is more important than the reception and says it would probably be fine, but told me to "google the etiquette." I'd much rather attend my boyfriend's friend's wedding because I'll know people there, they've been engaged for longer, and my cousins didn't give me a plus-one to invite my boyfriend, regardless of any conflict between the two events. It doesn't feel like they would really miss me that much at the reception and probably would have given me a plus-one if they cared that much. But, I'd appreciate your opinions on whether it's okay to skip a family member's reception if attending two weddings back-to-back is impractical. Any thoughts are welcome!
edit: i truly didn't know this would be so divisive! i'm glad i asked because i've managed to go 26 years without attending a wedding and don't know the politics of these events at all lmfao.