Urgent advice needed
Al-salam alaikum, I am a young Muslim shia a girl and need some urgent advice on a very sensitive topic. Please refrain from judging me I am already under a lot of stress and punishing myself as is. I only need advice maybe from someone older who knows how to react in this situation.
I got to know a man approximately my age from a different country. He convinced me to agree to a mutah marriage as to avoid haram and that his intention in the end will be marriage so its not haram. I unfortunately agreed because I believed him and did not know better. And so things happened between us
He tried asking for my hand and my mother refused, he told me to wait and that he was coming and that he will convince my mother so I believed him. My mother called his father and told him she refused. I didnt know until around a week later. A few days after he told me I woke up blocked everywhere and anytime I try to speak to him his excuse changes.
I messaged his mother and she said she has no idea about what happened only that following the phone call from my mother his father told him to back away. I recently searched and found out that a mutah marriage is not permissible for me since I am a virgin girl and would require a mahrams permission. I have completely broken down and I feel as though my life is ruined. This is a problem of honor and I feel like my honor is lost and I feel so broken.
I need urgent advice on what to do. I am afraid to tell my mother and what she will do. I have told his mother and she has not yet replied. My options are:
I speak to his mother once again and find a solution and see if his parents hold him accountable for his actions
Own up and tell my mother the truth but I have no idea how she will react, what will happen to me and what she will do.
I am at a point where I am so distraught and he is so concerned about his reputation I am willing to ruin his reputation in front of his friends but my only fear is that if he decided to unblock me he has all the proof and he will ruin me too.
Please brothers and sisters I dont want judgement I want solutions I am crying everyday and begging allah to bring him back or fix the situation. I keep doing tawassul through ahlulbayt.