Just Split.
For weeks she was pulling away and texting heaps but not me anymore, I didn't know what was going on and I checked her phone (which she gave me the password to) I found her monkey branching and confronted her about it, she said they were nothing but got defensive when i asked to get rid of them and my anxious attachment figured she was gaslighting me about it, she wanted space which left me to spiral into a rabbit hole of me basically watch hundreds of self help and videos of healing with avoidants, what to do if they pull away etc. I tried to talk to her parents about it hoping to share what I'd learnt and they might be willing to also gently push her to seeing someone that specialises in traumas and got told when she shuts down in life "thats just how she is". Finally wrote this letter knowing it was going to be the last time she would likely talk to me but figured it be for the best. She called me manipulative, threated to report the letter, said it was the final straw and broke up with me, her family removed me from socials instantly and so did she. She called a friend and basically said i was crazy and told him theres nothing wrong with her. I never thought there was, i just wanted to help her overcome it. I sent a photo of what i wrote down because at this point I didn't know if she was coming back or not. Really just want her to be okay but I'm not okay with sharing someone I care about with other people.