I (20F) have a genuine question because my boyfriend (24M) and I are currently arguing about this and I genuinely don’t know if I’m thinking about it wrong.
I was trying to open a box of Sprite and couldn’t get it open, so I grabbed scissors to help. I accidentally punctured one of the cans. As soon as it happened, he got really mad at me. I told him it was an accident and I obviously didn’t mean to do it.
Then he got even more upset because I didn’t immediately apologize. I told him I didn’t really understand why I needed to say sorry for something that was clearly accidental and not something that hurt him personally. To me, accidents happen, and explaining that it wasn’t intentional felt different than apologizing like I did something wrong on purpose.
Now we’re barely speaking to each other over it and I’m frustrated because this kind of thing happens a lot. I grew up apologizing for literally everything, so I’ve been trying to stop over-apologizing for every little mistake or accident.
Am I looking at this the wrong way? Should you still apologize for accidents even if there was no bad intention behind it? Edit: I said “oh no I didn’t mean to puncture it..I was just trying to open the box because I couldn’t with my fingers”, I got asked “well? Are you going to apologize?” After I started to clean up, so this is where it rlly started