I (30f) went to an event with a friend the other night and met a guy(24m). We chatted for about 20 minutes or so and it was a normal conversation. Not flirtatious, but friendly. We went about our ways and at the end of the night he came back around, gave me his number which I didn’t have an issue with. We chat a bit more and that was that.
Next day, he asks to hangout. I agree. We make plans to meetup for coffee the upcoming weekend. We texted maybe a couple of times this day and that was it. Next day texts remained minimal, but he was expressing the desire to talk on phone (to which I’m not opposed, but I expressed that I am busy) and expressed excitement for coffee meetup. Then said “I really want to see you.” There’s nothing inherently wrong with that statement, but it felt a bit much especially only having met him the other day and haven’t even texted a full day. But okay. I didn’t directly respond or acknowledge that message, as he sent 7 other messages that I was going to respond to instead.
Next day (maybe Friday, can’t remember timeline) he texts kind of adding more to the meetup—meaning we were only meeting up for coffee but he was planning more activities. Not inherently wrong, but for me this felt a bit much and going against the initial plan which I didn’t like. (I want to be clear I’m not against a man with a plan for meetups/hangouts/dates, I’m just very particular especially with men I don’t know and want to strictly abide by the agreed upon plan). I didn’t respond immediately as I wanted to think of a polite response, but he continued to send texts of how much he’s excited to see me. This made me a little uneasy, because again we only met the other day and had AT MOST a 30 minute conversation. Anyway, I eventually texted him saying I no longer wanted to meetup or converse and wished him the best. He responded with polite disappointment and said something to the effect of “I was looking forward to kissing your ankles”, and to reach out if I changed my mind. 😳 I didn’t respond and thought that was that.
Next day, he texts me saying that he’s going crazy thinking of me. I hadn’t responded to his text before and I definitely wasn’t going to respond. I close out the messages app and see he texted AGAIN. This time a photo…he bowing on a yoga mat NAKED. Okay he’s blocked now. I block him because, well I don’t need a reason. I blocked him. Thought that was it. I’m on TikTok later that day and see “people you may know” and he pops up. I blocked his page so fast. But the thing is he told me at the event, that he has zero social media, so this makes me believe he created TikTok on purpose. Could be a coincidence, what do I know, BUT later that night I checked my blocked list and his account was gone like he deleted it. Here’s my speculation: but it feels like he deleted it because maybe he couldn’t find my page or maybe he did find it but saw I blocked him.
I have no idea, but AIO for feeling like he’s a potential stalker at least cyber??
TL;DR: Met a guy at an event, exchanged numbers, and within a day he got very intense—over-texting, saying he really wanted to see me, and trying to turn a simple coffee into a bigger hangout. I canceled because it felt like too much too soon. After that, he got weird—made a comment about “kissing my ankles,” kept texting that he was going crazy thinking about me, then sent a nude photo. I blocked him. Later he showed up on my TikTok after saying he had no social media, then his account disappeared. Am I overreacting for feeling like this is potential stalker behavior?