ever since my dad remarried, i feel like my stepmom is constantly watching me
my dad remarried about a year ago, and ever since then, being at home has felt really uncomfortable for me, my stepmom is polite most of the time, but i constantly feel like she’s monitoring everything i do. if i sleep in too late, stay in my room too much, eat certain food, go out, come home late, or even just relax in shared spaces, i feel this weird tension like i’m being silently judged all the time.
sometimes she makes small comments that sound harmless on the surface, but they stick with me for hours afterward, the hardest part is my dad seems genuinely happy now, so i feel guilty even talking about it because i don’t want him to feel stuck between me and his new wife. i also can’t tell if i’m just struggling to adjust to the family change emotionally, or if she actually doesn’t want me around.
what would you do in this situation? try to talk to my dad about it, confront her directly, or just keep my distance and avoid conflict?