Wife is just plain insensitive
I got a wedding invite from a life-long friend, known him since the first day of Kindergarten (we are in our 40’s now). It’s a no-kids event and we have a two year old, so inconvenient but possible. First words out of her mouth, before there was any kind of consideration or discussion, were “I only have X amount of days off, I don’t know if we can do that. And I know no one will watch him for two or three days.” I was taken aback, zero thought that maybe, just maybe be important to me and we could at least check into a babysitter.
A few days later it came up again when talking about summer. Her words: “Well I would need two days off. And with a hotel and fuel it’ll be over $600 so I don’t know.” I said we can at least look into it, I have been putting plenty in savings. Very next thing she says is “Oh, there’s a concert I really really want to go to, Benson Boone. It’s only like $150 for a ticket and I would need to take 2 days off work. And we would want a hotel.”
Really?!? Do you not hear yourself? What do you think I would rather do, see my friends I haven’t been able to visit in forever, or watch some douche do flips in a leotard? (I admit he’s talented but I’m pissed)
I take days off for pretty much any reason I’m asked. We do the things you like. I ask once and it’s impossible and a major inconvenience.
I hope one of the slop YouTubers that read these types of posts who she watches 6 hours a day picks this up so she can see how inconsiderate this sounds, maybe that’ll get her attention (in hindsight don’t do that, slop YouTubers). Right now it’s Mothers Day and I am being considerate so I’ll have to bring it up later.
End vent.
***Edit*** Should have clarified, wedding is a 12 hour drive in another state. I work remote, she works a hybrid, remote days until work is complete with 2 days in office (Thursday-Friday). I can’t “just go” or “just get a babysitter.” She also has limited PTO, 9 days or so which includes the major holidays. You’d think Wedding>Concert…