Advice Needed
I live in Europe together with my husband since about 10years, we both studied Master’s here and now work at International companies. When we visit India each year, I dont feel like spending time with his Family (mother, father, brother, sister-in-law and nephew) they live in tier 3-4 city in Maharashtra and I am born and raised in Mumbai (we met during Bachelor’s). My BIL is schizophrenic, doesnt work. His condition is well managed so he doesnt behave schizophrenic or get episodes but doesnt work either. My SIL in from a poor family and only married my BIL because of financial security, she isnt a Graduate nor works. My FIL is educated but asset rich and cash poor. They have about 50k-75k rental income which they spend on themselves and my BIL’s family. They also bear education expenses of our Nephew (5-6YO).
I dont like my in laws because I think they make terrible decisions (like marrying my BIL thinking there will be someone to look after him after them; or forcing them to have a baby when they have no financial means). They dont care for themselves or travel, spend time just 2 of them. Nor do they leave BIL and his family alone like EVER. They are always invested in BIL and his son. Even returned from Europe when visting us for 1st time after just 4 days becase Nephew was sick. Imagine the money wasted buying last minute tickets, cancelling planed vacations. The house is in which they live is also very mediocre as per my or my family standard, it’s one of the best in his gaav though. I got a makeshift bedroom after complaning (was previously a big storage room), but it doesnt have a decent mattress or wardrobe. Should I furnish my room as per my requirements? I dont know if In general I am the problem or they are. I cant share this to my parents since I choose my husband against their wish.