There are far too many people who rush into parenthood before doing any sort of work on themselves.
I chose not to have kids because I have some psychological issues that I've been struggling with. My childhood was okay but was filled with a lot of psychological and emotional abuse from my mom. Both of my sisters, plenty of friends and acquaintances over the years, and especially my parents have all rushed into parenthood without ever recognizing their own flaws and toxic behaviors. I see with my own eyes their flaws and behaviors being taught and passed down to their children who will potentially repeat this process with their own kids if they have them.
I'm so far from being perfect. Nobody can be perfect. But we all owe it to ourselves and to the children we bring into this world against their will to identify the parts of ourselves that are harmful and to do the work to improve.
Somewhat related, there also seems to be people out here who believe simply having kids makes them a saint or deserving of praise and congratulations. You need to earn that. Bringing life into the world can be completely irresponsible depending on circumstances. Show us you mean to raise a good human being with love, empathy, and compassion.