u/Dinklebrush

I ( 21f ) at the time I was meant to be supported during labour by my bestie/ favorite,(19m) cousin during labor with my first child. He had been my main support during pregnancy. Day of birth. My mother offered to drive us to the hospital, picked me up and refused to turn down his street, or drive half a block to pick up my cousin. I cried, she took me to the hospital and refused to call him. I went through labor and with her ignoring me, her distracting the nurses, constantly taking the nurses attention. Everytime I asked a question she talked over me. Talking to the nurses, like she was having the baby. I got upset. My baby was in a painful position, I was trying to get the nurses attention to ask for an pain relief. I could barely breath in so much pain. My mother joked with the nurses, she was happily the center of attention and I said.. "Please shut up".. to her as forcefully as I could. She was silent, glaring at me fuming with anger. The nurses were suddenly very attentive. I said.. I need painkillers now. The epidural. Gas. I looked around, once I had the gas, my mother was gone. Guy came in and gave me the epidural. My mother didn't come back until hours later, I'd had my son on my own in what ended up being a traumatic birth. He was facing the wrong way and wide shouldered. Nearly 9 lb. I went from a birthing partner with a plan who was fully engaged with me and baby, and planned on swooping first holds. To my mother who didn't give a shit the whole time she was there. No water, no cool cloth until she left one one of the nurses took over. Punishing me for not asking her to be my birth person? Who knows. She also never asked to have time with my son, and If I did ask her to watch him.. I had to go and stay the night at her house..until he was 4 she never once asked to see him at all. And refused to hold his newborn little sister at all. My mother said shes small, shes probably going to die. If I didn't call her or go and see her she wouldnt see me. She leaves before the cake comes out at her grandkids birthdays.