Best friend has p-DID, should I act the same with both of them?
Forgive me for the lack of knowledge and being really uninformed especially when it comes to language, they just don't often like talking too much about things related to the condition since it's so intertwined with trauma, which I respect and understand, but I'd still like to understand more so I can be a better friend, so I'm asking here.
The switches tend to be really discreet, for lack of better word, to the point that unless it's a pretty extreme situation, usually I'll be the only person around that can tell (and even I can struggle). That leads me to think that they don't want to be treated differently, else they would "announce" it, right? And either way I also like and want to be friends with the alter that fronts less often and that I don't know as well yet, but at the same time I was a little worried that by acting the same way it would be disrespectful since at the end of the day, they are two different people, with different feelings and ways of thinking, acting, and talking, even if amnesia isn't present.
I understand it's a personal thing that will vary a lot depending on the people, but I was hoping you guys would be willing to share how you feel about this and give some insight, even if just some personal experiences or preferences. As of now I tend to just act the same way (if maybe a tiny bit more careful with what I say since I don't know her as much), and mostly ignore the change, especially in group settings (which is most of the time) unless they specifically bring up like "Hey btw I'm fronting at the moment".
Would it be more appropriate to have a stronger sense of distance? Should I change the name I use to address them when I notice a switch even if we're around other people who know about the p-DID but wouldn't have noticed a change otherwise?