Can you tell me one thing?
I’m a 21-year-old guy, and I've been single my entire life. I’ve never flirted with women, and I don't go around crushing on every girl I see or desperately trying to make something happen.
I’ve always been a firm believer that when the right time comes, I will naturally meet the right girl. Honestly, I feel like most of the messy breakups and drama happen because people force themselves to try and date everyone instead of letting things happen organically. The forced dating scene just isn't for me.
My hostel friends constantly joke that with my attitude, I’m absolutely going to end up in an Arranged Marriage (AM) setup. The irony is, I’m not even a firm believer in marriage itself. Let's be real, sometimes it honestly just feels like a societal license to have sex. I definitely don't want the AM route where I'm handed a total stranger, awkwardly get to know her, and then marry her. I want to find someone myself. Well, not "find," but meet.
I’ll also admit, I have some specific priorities and standards for a partner that might trigger pseudo-feminists, but I know what I want and I'm sticking to my guns.
The way I grew up, I genuinely believe that if a loner guy with terrible puns exists in this world, there has to be a loner girl out there with equally bad puns who matches my exact vibe.
So, I want to know—is what my friends are saying true? Am I setting myself up for an arranged marriage by not actively chasing? Has anyone on here taken this natural approach and actually seen it turn out beautifully?